Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
He didn't touch her. He didn't have sex with her.
But he flirted with her in front of me at work, and he texted her day and night even after I told him he needed to stop.
There was literally a night when I slept on the couch because he had still been texting her, and so he texted her for company in our bed.
We broke up partially over that and he was immediately, the same day, texting her again.
He says we were broken up so it didn't count. I say if you were already texting her beforehand and then immediately texting her flirtatiously when we broke up, that means even when we were dating you had intentions with her. He didn't hit up some random girl once we broke up, he hit up one he'd already been building a relationship with while we were dating.
We keep trying again, but lies keep coming up--lies by omission.
He said their conversations were nothing but silly nonsense, says I can read them--so I read them and they're filled with hateful things about me and I kick him out of my house again. He says I lied to him, that I only pretended we could get back together--but I said we could try again because his texts were mundane. They were not.
He finally admits he cheated, then when we get in normal arguments throws it back in my face that he's never cheated on anyone and I'm stupid for saying he has, making it clear that he still doesn't think he cheated on me.
He did.
Emotional cheating is almost worse than f*cking some other girl. Physical things can be just that..but needing her to comfort you emotionally and not me? That is complete betrayal of a four year relationship. I am so sickened.
But he flirted with her in front of me at work, and he texted her day and night even after I told him he needed to stop.
There was literally a night when I slept on the couch because he had still been texting her, and so he texted her for company in our bed.
We broke up partially over that and he was immediately, the same day, texting her again.
He says we were broken up so it didn't count. I say if you were already texting her beforehand and then immediately texting her flirtatiously when we broke up, that means even when we were dating you had intentions with her. He didn't hit up some random girl once we broke up, he hit up one he'd already been building a relationship with while we were dating.
We keep trying again, but lies keep coming up--lies by omission.
He said their conversations were nothing but silly nonsense, says I can read them--so I read them and they're filled with hateful things about me and I kick him out of my house again. He says I lied to him, that I only pretended we could get back together--but I said we could try again because his texts were mundane. They were not.
He finally admits he cheated, then when we get in normal arguments throws it back in my face that he's never cheated on anyone and I'm stupid for saying he has, making it clear that he still doesn't think he cheated on me.
He did.
Emotional cheating is almost worse than f*cking some other girl. Physical things can be just that..but needing her to comfort you emotionally and not me? That is complete betrayal of a four year relationship. I am so sickened.
Betrayal is betrayal
Some people get to the point at which they are more comfortable lying than telling the truth regardless of the circumstance or topic
Lying sacks of shit they be
And he is state fair caliber
Leave him
Better to be done and have wasted four years
Then to waste another hour
Than to waste another hour"
That is amazing.
It doesn't sound like you are married to this man, thankfully. You can get out easy and get out now and find someone who makes you happy and values you, because he doesn't. And then he can be "happy" and get with this other girl and once you are gone, can start treating her like crap....because he will. He just isn't one of the good guys......
If someone doesn't want to be in your life, let them go. If someone is sucking the life out of you.....cut them out of it. Let go of the people that poison your spirit, dull your shine, and bring you drama.
You may want to consider going to IC to help you get back to a healthier you because emotionally this man has abused you over 4 years and you want to come to an understanding that this is not what a happens in a healthy relationship and you don't want to bring those insecurities into another relationship.
Betrayal, abandonment...offered to pay for anything she needed for her to leave her husband (no drugs or abuse), giving of gifts, texting all the time, meeting up to drive around or talk...I didn't give him ultimatums to cut things off with OW, kicking him out, etc wanted him to feel he had a choice.
Inability to be honest and feeling like he was throwing out crumbs of me trying to save our marriage for the last year has left me emotionally broken and a steep hill I need to climb back up. Harder knowing what our kids are dealing with and the changes to their lives as well. Stay strong and if you don't value yourself, no one else will either.