Hmm i never just up and hug someone but there are many who do. I seriouslky doubt they are trying to cop a feel thpough lol. Perhaps its a replacement for words us men just can nevr find until 48 hours after they are needed.

Okay...I have huge trust issues now, as well.

BUT

I have always been a big huggle :)
I like giving hugs as much as I like gettin'em!

...I really hope nobody thinks I'm just trying to cop a feel....

Jenn, I don't know. I have those trust issues too, but I am a natural hugger. Hell, I even give the bagger at the grocery store a hug for bagging my turkey up.

I love people. Period. It was something I refused to have sacrificed after the affair and all. Just was not going to give that up.

BUT I don't put my whole body up against anyone, except my man. I hold that lower part of me a bit away. See what I mean? And if someone's hands move where I don't want them to? I disengage quite well, if I say to myself.

I don't trust tremendously easily anymore, but you know, I still love people and don't want to shut off my being to that interaction, that connection...

Hang in there, honey, It does get better! L~

For some reason this post has been on my mind for a few days. I realized that i am 6'-3" and when i hug someone i always have to lean over thus my entire body from the shoulders down is away from them. Even when i hug my wife its the same unless i stand up straight then it would be more of an embrace than a hug i think.

So i wonder, are the short guys/girls of the world getting free feels this way? If so, how can a tall guy/girl get them? 2 ways i think. 1. Lean over to hug them and then once you have a good grip just lift them off the ground with you thus forcing the bodies together. Then for added pervoscity (i made that word up) you could swing them back and forth like the pendulum of a grandfather clock. OR 2. Do some sort of squatty type thing to match thir height and then waddle like a duck over to them for the perverted hug. Seems a bit awkward to say the least. Either way the tall person has no real way of copping a feel in a discreet manner so i guess the shorties of the world once again get the glory!

I guess I've never thought about it, but I do hug folks that I know. To me, it's simply an expression of affection.

I don't feel right hugging someone I've never met. I certainly don't hug people the first time I meet them, but I never turn it away when someone hugs me.

I have known people that told me to not hug them anymore, so I don't. If it bothers you, I recommend just extending your hand as if shaking hands and most people will get the hint.

Or even better, tell people you aren't feeling well if hugging makes you uncomfortable.

Just because some people are comfortable with hugging doesn't mean everyone is.....

If someone is coming in for a hug just stick out your hand - go for the shake.

I have a huge personal space and do not like to be hugged unless its my husband or my child. I do hug my parents at times and my inlaws at times but not alot.

That is one of the things that made me angry. I don't let alot of people get that close to me. I did let my husband in completely and then he had an affair and destroyed that trust.

Anyway, most people can tell when they hug me that it makes me uncomfortable. I do hate that I am that readable but they usually don't do it again, or at least most of them don't.

I don't mind huggers but I know not everyone likes to be hugged.

I don't have to trust someone to receive or give a hug, but I at least have to like ya. lol