Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Does the pain ever get better

llmt
llmt
Does the pain of what they really do to you ever get better? All the hopes, dreams, etc. that you had. I love him but feel utter disgust for him lying and cheating and making a fool of me not once but twice. Here I am trying to teach my 6 year old about lying and I have the biggest hypocrite right in front of me. When I mentioned that to his sister in an email, he wrote to the OW that "What is no sex and no time together the new marriage phenonmenon?"....also, when he and the other woman went out "We showed respect for each other...define respect how you will...2 hours of oral sex..velvet tongue, etc"...he just disgusts me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are a good person & a wonderful mother. Keep bringing up those boys the way you have been. Yes, the pain will get better. Treat yourself well, you deserve it. Find healthy things to focus on & try not to give him too much of your time or energy. He is the one with the problem. You are sooo much better off without him.
Lstecker
Lstecker
Wow, what a clown. First he lays this cheating on you and then blames you for not wanting sex? He is sharp as a damned marble, isn't he??? And the showing respect? Like that???? Nice...real damned nice.

Has he hit the curb yet or will that be coming up soon???

L~
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow, what a shock, a cheater made it out to be the betrayed spouse's fault. They NEVER do that.

If he had problems in the marriage, he made his first mistake by not talking to you about them. Then when he went to the OW with it, he was already betraying you. Not only is he a liar and a hypocrite, he's a horrible example for your kids. I'm trying to teach my girls about role models and treating people decent, and its hard to do so when their mother left me for a lying cheater instead of either working things out or coming to me and respectfully asking out of the marriage. Then she had the nerve to turn around and introduce this person to all of them.

All I can say is hang in there and be there for your kids like you have, you are doing the right thing and taking the high road and you will feel better about it someday, I promise. I thought for the longest time I was always going to feel hurt and never see any light in this situation, but now eight months later and closing in on the final divorce, I am starting to realize she may have done me the biggest favor of my life.