Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Almost 2 months ago I found out my husband was having an emotional affair with a coworker. It seems that turned into a physical affair. He served me with divorce papers on Monday. And next week he is taking her on a 3 day get away to Philly. I feel so hurt that he left me and my daughter for a skank who gets involved with a married man with a baby at home. Anyone have any experience with spouses leaving their marriage for the person they cheated with? How did it turn out, didnhey have a long happy relationship or did it end quickly? If it ended was the cheating spouse remorseful and wanted his family back?
1. 1%-10% of married men who have affairs end up leaving their spouses and marrying their affair partners.
2. Over 75% who marry partners they were in an affair with eventually divorce.
3. 80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision.
If you think that the handful out of a 100 who stay with their other affair partner are actually happy I think you'd have to shave off a few more points.
The thing is that contentment in life is about appreciating what you have and being able to look at yourself in the mirror and not feel ashamed.
By definition someone who goes with the whole "grass is greener" perspective is not someone who is content and has an un-fillable hole. As well, knowing the destruction to all the lives of people around them including their children will always weight on their souls. They may justify and tell themselves that they are good people with a asterisk attached, but the mark remains.
As well, unhealthy people can't exist in a healthy relationship. Both need to be healthy or it become co-dependent at best. Adulterers are quite unhealthy in perspective and character. Each would and should be wary of the other partner doing to same to them in the future when the relationship becomes stagnant.
Even if both somehow in the distant future both cheaters repented too late and decided to stay together because the spouses didn't want them back, the shadow of the destruction they caused would rob them of much joy.
If this happens and he comes back than it all depends if he truly came to his senses and is renorsefull and realizes the pain he caused if not he will just go back to you treat u like his doormat and cheat on you again.
I know how much ur hurting it's such an intense pain. Please consider therapy for urself build up ur self esteem and try to not focus on him. Build urself back up to the strong women you are, tgan if he would eventually cone back the choice is yours and you may realize ur in a better place without him. It's so rough to go through this with little ones involved. So sorry I hope you have some family and friends to fall back on. Treat urself go out with a friend di a spa day go dancing. Anything for you. U deserve it. Hugs