I discovered what I thought was an emotional affair that my husband was having about three years ago.After many traumatizing question and amswer sessions over the ensuing months, he told me that he had not been intmate. Givin in to a peculiar gut reaction, I logged into his computer and skimmed some documents that he had stored. One document was the copy of an e-mail that he had probably sent before the affair was discovered. The wording of the e-mail left no doubt that the affair was physical as well.I just found this out a couple of months ago,and even though the e-mail was a couple of years old(I guess) the knowledge that he had lied made it feel like a fresh kick in the stomach. He was very reluctant to explain the nature of the e-mail because it didn't explicitly talk about the "act";he has a way with words, and tried to lie his way out of what the words insinuated, but I made him tell the truth. He was remorseful(we had been making progress since the "discovery" a few years ago.) He begged forgiveness, begged me to stay, but did not volunteer to discuss when and where they committed the acts.(I know the OW.) As of this post, I am still troubled by when and where he managed to become intimate with the **** while I was under the impression that he had just been spending too much quality time with her.Do I still try to find a way to ask him, or do I just accept that it happened and try to move on? He had never had an affair before this,we had been the only sexual partner with each other before this happened, and I guess I can't get over how he could allow himself to be intimate with another woman the way he had been with me. Married 30+ years if that makes any difference.