Me and my ex had been together 7 years from high school all the way up to 2 weeks ago. She was my first love. We have had some ups and downs over the last year, fault being placed on us both. I started feeling a disconnect and found out a few times she was talking to other guys via instagram. She was confronted and asked to stop and said she did. She left on vacation the day after Christmas to visit family and this is when it all happened.... we had a argument while she was gone and slowly she started ghosting me. 4 days went by and i panic. Called 100 times with no response, lashing out to get her to respond with heated texts. I then get a long text basically saying fuck you its over. She was suppose to be back new years eve and never showed, i was destoyed. Finally a day later i hear shes coming to grab her things, the whole time saying she wants to talk and maybe work it out. So she came, and while i was waiting for her to come upstairs i saw a from a guy "how ya feeling love?" Immediately i brought this to her attention. She tried to down play it and tell me it was nothing,and stupidly i believed, the conversation continued. Finally after lots of crying and huggin, she agreed that shed be gone for three weeks and would be back to contunue our life together. I was giving a ring of hers as a promise, she slept in my bed, held me and made so many promises. She left early the next day with the last text being recieved saying how much she loved me. A day goes by with no word. Finally, my mother found a seceret Instagram account with a newly posted pic of her half naked, with a comment saying "never looking back."Then i found his page, with posts dating back to early in december,refering to them being together and having plans for valintines day . I was again devastated. I sent her the posts and have heard nothing since. I am destroyed. How could she leave her cat shes had since childhood? Did she really think she can keep it a secret? She left het home, job and life to go back and be with a guy who has a extensive violent crimal history. She was my first love and i just dont know how to deal with this and wrap my mind around it. Any advice would be greatly appriciated.
I have nowhere else to turn right now. My heart is broken and I'm falling apart right now as I type. It all hurts so much. I had anxiety all day waiting for the call I just got from my husband. I knew it wasn't going to be good because he hasn't offered to call me in almost 5 months. He told me he knew I wanted to save the marriage, but he doesn't want to. He hasn't even tried, he has...
hi guys,i know this is the eternal question but id love everyone's opinion...is there any real way of telling if your grandiose paranoia and mistrust of some one is based on a lifetime of abandonment and betrayal by those around you? or if its that world famous female intuition?