Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello all. I found out 3 weeks ago that my wife of almost 10 years was having an affair with a co-worker. The affair lasted about 2 months. We also have a 6 yr old daughter. My wife came to me a month before D day and told me that she was unhappy in our marriage and I was shocked. Nothing had changed at home and she had never said anything about being unhappy up to that point. Little did I know, the affair was already happening for about a month. I asked her why she was unhappy and I suggested marriage counseling. She refused. All of her issues related to lack of communication. Fast forward a month after that, I was looking through phone bills because I knew something was up. I noticed a number that was on there frequently but nothing crazy as far as long, late night calls. I asked who the number belonged to and she told me. I asked if she was seeing him and the next day she came clean. Two month affair....I was devastated. Never in my life did I ever think my wife would have an affair. I was convinced I had the perfect marriage. I would brag about her often to coworkers. She WAS the best. We talked and decided that we would work through this. I truly love my wife. I did a lot of reading and realized that I could take some ownership for her unhappiness but I would not and never will take ownership of her decision to cheat.
She changed her phone number and gave me access to her email. We were heading in the right direction. Two weeks go by and We has attended one session of counseling. The Therapist was very optimistic about us moving forward with our marriage. Two days later she spoke her AP who is also married with 5 kids. He must have told her everything she wanted to hear. She obviously has feelings for this man. She got an apartment and started moving out. She wants a divorce and wants it now. Obviously, she’s gonna get her divorce. I am devastated and not sure how I can move on. Also, they are still seeing each other and apparently have big plans for their future together. Is it possible their relationship will work? This has crushed me.....
Have you had a conversation with her AP's wife? Can you imagine how she feels with five kids? If you haven't, I suggest that you do. You only know the lies your W is telling you.
Ditch that therapist. Fine someone who lives in reality.
So sorry
Be careful about being her safety net
Now you must plan your future life, of course file for full custody.
Its going to hurt, there are no quick fixes.
You will have to focus on your healthy, life, soul, and spirit.
who cares about her and her life now.
You must get a good therapist, and get friends and family to help you support you and push you to grow and be a better example of yourself.
Vent to everyone you know, even here. You have to learn from it and grow and allow yourself to heal from the walls pf pain.
A good wife and mother, just as a good father/husband would not abandon her/his family for her own personal joy.
Know that their relationship is born out of deceit and will end that way. It's not about finding the right person, it is about finding a decent person.
Two people who abandon their spouses and children are not that and it will end in disaster with much regret if not remorse.
Get custody of your child as she would be a poor example to follow and grow up around.