Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My husband had an affair with a co worker. It was a mistake. We saw a counselor whom guided us through the recovery process today we are committed to each other it has taken a long time to feel the way we do about each other now. He did his homework, became transparent, did what he needed to do to regain my trust. I do trust him again. But triggers and reminders of our past still pop up. As instructed by my counselor I was told to tell my husband whenever a trigger came up
his job was simply to reassure me. My counselor mentioned Bringing up triggers is not punishing my husband over and over again its letting him into my heart so he can feel connected to me patch up the little holes the triggers create. I felt this was good advice putting it out there for others who might be needing this. Peace.
his job was simply to reassure me. My counselor mentioned Bringing up triggers is not punishing my husband over and over again its letting him into my heart so he can feel connected to me patch up the little holes the triggers create. I felt this was good advice putting it out there for others who might be needing this. Peace.
Dragonfly, this is great advice. The only problem I have is in your second sentence, as an affair is no mistake. But I'll presume it is just a word you're using to describe something wrong.
Removing anything that's within your control that produces triggers, is paramount. Some are unavoidable, like Cali's incident, and I've experienced the same, driving by places that produce triggers. But as long as one can remove the bigger triggers, one is able to heal quicker.
I'm glad to hear that you have reconciled successfully and that you have a counsellor to help you deal with and maneuver your way around and over hurdles.
Even now, years later, the smell of eucalyptus trees can trigger me. The apartment complex she cheated in (and was a manager for), had a row of those trees in front.
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