Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My H is a self proclaimed “social butterfly” his personality comes off very flirty with everyone he meets..we’ve had several issues with social media (i.e. inappropriate comments, conversations, and general “flirting” with other women) the first issue was a FaceTime “session” with his ex that i was unaware of for about 6 months until she threatened to tell me so he finally did. He swore it just happened and it didn’t mean anything. My trust was completely shattered but i agreed to forgive and rebuild trust, but he doesn’t understand the “rebuild” part. After gut feelings, i would go thru his messages and always find something concerning and it always fell on me for “snooping” and not trusting him like i was suppose to, like all of that trust was suppose to magically come back in a matter of weeks. The most recent issue was supposedly more innocent but happened with someone he had a history with a LONG time ago.
He says he doesn’t know why he said any of those things, there was no reason, it wasnt my fault (though thats how i feel) ...how to fix an issue when you dont know the cause? What are some reasons someone would continue to have this behavior? How do you move past insecurities?
There is never a reason to be privately texting another woman, EVER. He isn’t trustworthy!
never trust a "partner" that hides what they do
He will continue this behavior, he will get sneakier.
You will continue to feel as you do now. How you feel is in response to his activities and behavior and attitude. If that doesn't change, nothing else will either.
Hes a good guy and a good father..im just wondering what drives a person to reach out to someone else when they have everything at home. Thrill of danger and wrong? Lack of communication as to what is acceptable or not? Do i have a right to request his phone anytime to thoroughly snoop? At what point is that being controlling? So many questions!
We do not randomly text people of the opposite sex. We do not share personal information or ask for a “shoulder to cry on” of someone of the opposite sex. The interesting thing about confiding in someone of opposite sex, funny things start happening, the first thing that happens is that you realize somebody is showing care and concern for your well-being.. without all the negativity or nagging. The next thing is you’ll find yourself wanting to talk to that person more and more and to your spouse or partner less and less. Because when you talk to your spouse they don’t want to talk about “feelings“ they want to talk about The bills, the kids, what you’re doing what you’re not doing.
You want to hang out in a group with your friends from work fine never ever should it be one on one with anyone of the opposite sex.
First thing is that there is no reason for him to have female friends "platonic" or not. He does not have self control and has no boundaries.
A good man and father does not cheat on his wife and mother of his child. This isn't about human weakness or mistakes, it the fundamental responsibility of a father/husband to protect his family.
Lastly, you don't fix anything. It is his responsibility to realize he needs to overhaul his character and get himself into personal counseling and do to work to grow and also to help you heal. He needs to cut out all his social media and relationships with the opposite sex. There needs to be accountability for his whereabouts and his phone usage.