You are going to have that nagging doubt. Unless you have a reason to be suspcious, I would not act on it. I'm not sure how long since the affair but eventually the doubts will go away or he will do something that proves to you he is not being faithful.

It sounds crazy but he texted me goodnight way earlier than normal last nigh and this morning my texts aren't going thru. I keep thinking he blocked my number while with her so no texts accidentally pop up. It is very odd my texts aren't getting delivered? Do I sound inane about this as something making me panic?

How do you know your texts are not getting delivered? If he blocked your number you would never know it. It just does not come up on his phone and he cannot tell if you texted or called.

When you send the text , if it goes thru, says "delivered", I've sent 3 to make sure and am not getting the "delivered" message, I've texted other people this morning just to make sure it wasn't my phone and every single one went thru but the ones to him. I know she doesn't work on Mondays and he doesn't have to work until later so last night would have been a good night for them both to be able to be up late. This is eating at me. Help!

The OW is a liar and a cheater. Read that again: a liar and a cheater. What makes you think she will tell you the truth?

Is she married? Better to call her H, introduce yourself and ask him!

Better still: don't ask anyone other than your H.

I cannot even count how many times I have been told to ignore the OW. She is not the problem. I strongly disagree because she is the one who initiated the A, but I do agree with the advice for different reasons. People tend to think all is well unless we open our big mouths and let everyone know otherwise. She will assume you two have reconciled unless you show her how weak you are, how tentative your marriage is. Do not contact her!

You can check up on your H as much as you want, as much as you need. I have had to because my H did go back to her. I caught him by checking up on him. He ended it again.

Focus on your H and your marriage. Do whatever you need to do so there is distance between the two cheaters. I know you are scared. I know you want to know where you stand. We all do.

He and I are living apart. Yes I agree if I ask her she could lie and say they are seeing each other just to cause strife but it's killing me. She has always been the aggressor but my H has shown to be very weak where she's concerned. I am so scared right now. He says he will move back home w me tomorrow. Is that someone who is trying to keep two women going at same time? One part of me says he wouldn't say he'd move back tomorrow if he wants to keep us both on the line but he also knows I'm not ready for that so it could be a bluff. Why move home if one is having his cake right now and eating it too. Am I making up logic to suit my hopes? Do I let him move home to solidify my pint even if I'm not ready yet?

I just read what you posted about the phone. Call him. And use teensafe to capture his text messages. I don't want to make you even more anxious, but you need to trust your instincts.
It doesn't look good - funny how they give themselves away in little ways.

Evil xOW here......
A few things: No, we other women do not seduce unsuspecting faithful, loving husbands and get our way with them. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. We are all born with free will......just want to clear up that misconception.
2. What husband BLOCKS his wife?! Who would do that? If your husband has the audacity to press 'block' under your name for one minute then he needs to stay living where he is. Say you were in an emergency!
Love the teen safe idea, but also make sure its not something else. Although I am a firm believer in trusting your gut and I mean that. We women are born with a very powerful sixth sense-use it. But, could it also be his phone? Truthfully this weekend my husband wasn't getting my texts and he was in the next room. It could happen.
Pick up the phone and call him.
3. Why move back home? Yeah...It doesn't make sense.....unless.....its about the money. I'm sure keeping up two places is a lot and sometimes it is 'cheaper to keep her' and simply easier to go underground. Just being honest. The money factor is huge for some men. For every teensafe app, there a trac phone waiting to be purchased at Walmart for $9.99.
Affairs do go underground, so I agree- tell her hubby. I will say a guy like that really isn't worth any of your time....she can have him and you can find someone else with some integrity and you don't have to perseverate over his honesty .
I did read recently about a husband that took a lie detector test (you can get one privately for about $300) just to prove to his wife that he had been faithful and was sincere in his intentions.
I thought that was interesting.

Shoretimenow, thank you for the honest post. You are right, my ex is just as responsible as the OW for the affair BUT it is still heinous for any woman to aggressively pursue another woman's husband. This woman was very aggressive and yes my ex fell to it, thus why I divorced him. He is trying to win me back and regain my trust. Money is not a factor at all, I had the money , not him, and he got a generous settlement he could live the rest of his life on in bliss with the OW if he wanted. You are totally right about the phone malfunction thing. I guess it's just the process I have to go thru right now to figure out if I can fully trust him again or trust him enough to live under the same roof.

PS I don't think all other women are evil, but in my case she knew me, was nice to my face while she chased my husband, I do think those actions have a tone of evil to them. I don't know your story and can't judge what happened with you. I like hearing different perspectives and your fills a needed void in the story of cheating. Thank you for your honesty.