Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My wife and I got married almost 2 months ago. Prior to our marriage I had inappropriate conversations with multiple women and a couple months before we got engaged I was involved in an emotional and physical affair. My wife found out the details of everything after we were married and has asked me time after time the details of everything. I'm ashamed of what I did and for some reason struggle to remember the full details. She's been able to download all of my text history to see exactly what had happened and numerous times has asked me questions about a specific instance and I don't remember at times or then my memory will kick in. We are at a point where I feel like I'm completely losing her since I have lost her trust and did so many horrific things. I don't want to continue to live my life as a cheater or as a liar, but I can't seem to do things right. I need help, I need some support to help me get it right. I love her more than she understands and I don't want to cause her anymore pain because of my bad choices. How do I mentally get my crap together and how do I help her to heal from what I've done? Somebody please help!!
This isn't about what can you do to help her heal. This is about removing the problem to allow her to heal. The arrogance and ease with which you write about and describe your infidelity, is disturbing, as though you have no intention of stopping it, yet you want to know how to help her heal.
There's a book written called "False Intimacy" about sexual addiction.
Find out why your needs aren't being fulfilled in her alone if you love her. If losing her is on the table, maybe that's what it will take to inhibit your sins( if their still happening).
Also, you will not be able do anything right for awhile if ever in her eyes because of your bad choices. But that is her right and justified. You can expect alot more anger even after you have a good week or having a great day then all of a sudden boom she comes at you like tornado. But that is damage you created.
Unfortunately for us women we have this overwhelming need to know what happened and details and you will often get remember when u said this or remember this instance. And yes we are aware details will destroy us even more. But we need to know to understand or try to. And the not knowing is worse. She will scrutinize every single detail but it's something she has to do. And the longer she is living in the realm of still looking for details you are prolonging her pain further when maybe a week or month later she finds out something new. When that happens it's like her finding out about it day one and more anger starts again. So,sit her down tell her God's honest truth about everything. Then let her decide to stay or go. It's not until she knows the whole truth she can begin healing. Because she is waiting on her breath knocked out again. It's not until you tell her everything regardless of consequences that she can start to heal.