Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I got married in June 2012. All was well... I had not eyes for anyone else. You couldn't tell me my marriage wasn't perfect. We got pregnant fast! I had a baby in June 2013, 2 weeks after delivering my son my husbands phone was ringing off the hook. I picked it up to bring it to him and it said "Crystal". Well... I knew I didn't know anyone named Crystal so I unlocked his phone to look. Crystal was asking was he going to help pay her rent this month. I asked him about her he denied being with her but if you are paying someone's rent then... You are just chatting. The very next day I was snooping because now I'm curious. I logged on into his account on the iPad. There he was telling a woman that his wife had just found out about a "friend" texting to congratulate him on marriage and flipped out. He told her he would go get a go phone so that he wouldn't lose touch. Well... I lost it! Asked him to leave. Screamed. Cried. He apologized of course. We did counseling. I never fully trusted him. So about 6 months later I find out he is still talking to the go phone lady who is much older then me and married! Usually you are worried about women younger then you. My husband wants an old lady. Months went by and my toddler was playing in my husbands woke bag. What does he pull out?! Condoms!!! We def aren't using them. A couple months later I'm cleaning out old bags too relate for a vacation and find Viagara. Trust me. He ain't using them with me! Now... I'm 6 months pregnant. I thank God for my baby and don't regret anything at all. I was told by my doc that it would be hard to get pregnant without taking medicine. I found out last month that my husband has been raising his ex girlfriends daughter since the day we got married. The problem with this is in marriage counsels I asked him would he continue to talk to her. He said no... I said please let me know right now!!! He said I will cut it off for you. Well, this child calls him her dad. He goes to see her. They met up to see him. He also made a mistake and texted me talking about her thinking he was talking to her mom. He claims he meant to text his daughter my step daughters mom. That was my last straw. This is just as bad as finding out he has another child on me. I've been through so much and stuck with him because I wasn't raised with my dad in the house and wanted something better for my kids. But now I'm to the point where he can't tell me Grass is green and I would believe him. I want a divorce but I'm scared! How to make it? I have a good job and I know that I'll be ok financially but it is nice to have help. I've stayed around so long due to the embarrassment of getting a divorce. I'm always upset and confused. It's obvious my husband won't stop lying and betraying me. And by the way, I feel like this child is the only innocent person in the mess. I never asked him to stop talking to her. But he told me "I'm not about to ignore a child who looks up to me like a father". Well, what about your vows?! I fee like I don't know the man j married. Any advice? It's way more to this story. It's just so much to text. I wish that I could talk to someone daily. I'm too embarrassed to tell my family and friends. I'll look stupid for staying around so long!
Protect yourself from him, he's a lying coward. Most cheaters DO NOT open up in couples counselling. He and you will need individual counselling, before couples will work in your favour. Right now, he's just going to appease you, and it's an excellent venue for them to discover how to conduct themselves and what to hide to keep it going underground, which seems to be what he's done.
You grew up without a father in the home, and you seem to have turned out well. Why worry your children won't without a father like that in the house? What you may not have considered is, that by allowing it to go on, you're setting an example for your children that it's okay to be married to a cheater, and hence it's okay to cheat. Don't stay with him for the children, you are all they need.
I wish you well.
As far as the innocent child is concerned you have to break that situation down. As I understood it this was a woman he had an affair with while married to you right? So he went outside your circle of marriage and started a relationship with a woman who had a child and now that child thinks or looks at your husband as his father. Yes indeed the child is innocent in all of this but it doesn't exclude the fact that the man he looks up to as his father is married and has children of his own and one on the way. It is not his fault that his mommy and this married man made bad decisions but I think the relationship should be stopped and that the child if not too young should be sat down and know some of this truth and bad decision making by your husband and his mother.Your husband should explain to him the mistake he made and that he has children of his own and a family to raise and thats it. The rest should be left to his mother to tell who likes to date married men. Shame on her and him!
But in reality your husband has a chewing nature. Its never too late to have a beautiful life . Trust I have been thorough so much heartbreak and deception and I know that I will have a beautiful life. Have your babies be alone for a while the rest will come. God can turn any situation thats horrible into something beautiful and He will do this for you like He did for me.