oh its really sad to hear!

I can help you with confronting him. Remember he is the one trying to be slick.

As to how to confront him...I suggest you tell him you need to get a few things off your chest. No, "we need to talk" or "I have a few questions" or anything that puts him on the defensive...just, "I need to tell you a few things...". One thing may be, you are married, you're a couple, and his ex-wife should be the past. If they have children together, or they were friendly when you met, I could see some leeway for the talking, but sending his ex-wife money without consulting his current wife is troubling. If you aren't comfortable about it, tell him. If you aren't comfortable with him talking with other women in the manner that he does, especially "I love you", tell him. If you aren't comfortable with him having the kik app (I have no idea why a married person would need this app, but it's not my marriage) tell him. If you don't feel comfortable with how he keeps his phone off limits to his wife, tell him. And overall, wrap up the vent session with the overall feeling that you feel that he is cheating on you. Stress that it is how you feel (because you don't have any hard evidence right now, but the feeling is damaging enough to your relationship). Like I said, I would try to do it in as non-confrontational a manner as you can, and emphasize that you just want him to know how you feel, and I wouldnt necessarily expect a response. Passive-aggressive? Sure. But, even if you have video of him cheating, he will most likely deny it. Or, maybe he has great explanations for his behavior. Either way, though, not opening some sort of dialogue with him is taking an emotional toll on you. Maybe he'll come clean...maybe he'll change his habits and not say a thing, maybe he gets even sneakier...but right now, he either thinks he's doing nothing wrong, or he's on a slippery slope and thinks he's able to lead two separate lives. Hope something here helps.

Trust your gut. Husbands don't need the Kik app. Red flag! Protecting the phone, big red flag! Sending ex money, yet another big fat red flag. I'm sorry you're going through this!

Sounds like to me he is cheating sorry to break it to you even being married to him won't stop him from cheating sorry to break it to you. Sounds to me he is not over is ex or there's some reason to it maybe his ex has children? But if it hasn't nothing to do with that case than he is on to something secretly.. Tell him that you don't like how he treats you and that he isn't being honest to you. Well if he doesn't confess what he is doing than you might as well get someone to help out like a lawyer if you could afford one or get counseling if possible. Maybe grab some evidence and see what he is up to. Maybe hire secret agent.

My wife told me she doesn't love me anymore because we've "grown apart". Since then she is always texting, keeps her phone (pass word protected) under lock and key and is wearing new clothes and perfume. Trust your gut and watch out for YOU. Saying "I love you babe" is unacceptable! HUGS

I'm sorry to read your story, and it sounds like he most certainly is cheating. If you can get a hold of the phone (while he's asleep), I'd go through it, and anything else you can go through, to get something more concrete. Kik app is used as a messaging service where you can easily send photos, and it's known to be used to send nude photos between users. Why on earth is he texting someone "I love you babe," other than he's cheating with that person?

When I read posts like this, where a spouse is blatantly keeping a private life, by guarding their phone, sexting with women, and deceiving their spouse, it makes my blood boil. You need to get to the bottom of this, and now. Do whatever you need to in order to get some concrete evidence, then hit him with it.

I wish you well.

Thank y'all so much! I haven't confronted him yet... I'm still nervous about it. But I'm going to. Thank y'all for the advice and taking the time to write to me.

Could it have been his ex that he is saying I love you too?

I think you have blinders on.
Ask him to get rid of his KIK app, that you aren't comfortable with it.......see how that goes. That will tell you all you need to know......unless you don't want to really know.

As for the exwife, you are the wife now.....I'd call her up myself. I had to do that once.

Just a bit of advice in terms of confronting him. One would be if he is the violent type to make sure it is in public.

Another thing is that if you make a threat you HAVE to follow through or they know that they own you.

If you tell him that you are getting a divorce if he doesn't hand over his phone right now (before he deletes his texts) then you better follow through.

Asking him if he has had an affair or not is pointless. He will just lie if he's gone to those lengths to hide it. Why would he confess? Just straight up ask for the phone and give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't...be sure he'll delete everything and show you later. Then he can gaslight you by saying, "See, nothing on the phone...you're crazy."

get tested for stds
the guy is definitely cheating
protect yourself
do you have kids? if so, protect them, get gone from this scumbag

If he says he isn't doing anything wrong... tell him to prove it!
Teensafe.com

First back up his phone if he has an iPhone...

Then go to teen safe website and follow the steps! Watch him sweat his butt off

Deleted texts, deleted kik, deleted what's app...
When you have proof that he is what are you gonna do with it? Figure that out before!

BTW I did it while he was sleeping!

Whoa put the brake on the confrontation. Sad to say but it looks like divorce is coming didn't read all the comments so I may be saying something that's already been said but you need to start covering your ass by that I mean getting evidence putting back money so you're not left high and dry getting your paperwork things of that nature things that matter to you in order don't be blindsided when you confront him and he says he wants a divorce have your ducks in a row so if that's what happens you can manage to take care of yourself and nail his ass to the wall while you're at it. pm me I can tell you how to hack his phone and see what he is doing. It's realitively simple depending on Android or iPhone. If it's an Android you'll have to get your hands on the phone for about 10 minutes if it's an iPhone don't even have to get your hands on it.. I'm just tired of watching all you ladies get hit with something you didn't see coming and if he's out screwing around then don't doubt for a second divorce and how to cover his shit and screw you over isn't already planned to a T in his head especially if he is the one makes the most and y'all have any assests of great value hell of a good attorney it's going to cost you $4,000 or more in a retainer. Just please look out for you and your children if y'all have kids first. And we've all done it got blindsided with a cheater subconsciously it becomes a competition you don't want to let some other person take what's yours but in the end that you're really want somebody that would do you that way you deserve better even on the off chance it's not physical he's emotionally cheating. As said all I'm saying may be redundant but the more you hear truth the more you will open your eyes to let me know if you want those phone hacks.