Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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smileandlaugh
smileandlaugh
on bf and told him and since them, every text message I get and send he reads, he reads emails and sent one, looks at log on phone, history on computer, goes through face book page......I have no issues with that as I'm not doing anything but is this normal for the other person to check up on everything ???
Bratty1
Bratty1
It is, if you want him to trust you again you have to be transparent. It's tough and kind of sucky but if you love him and want it to work transparency is best. Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, very normal. It's the one who doesn't check cuz he doesn't give a rat's ass that should concern you. He's hurt and he's scared and he's looking for something steady to hang onto, something he can trust, and right now that is every word you write, all the tangible evidence he can see.

When he's had LOTS of time catching you at doing everything right, he will start to.relax. But if you break his trust again, even in the slightest, it starts all over again.

Give him time and keep your nose clean. Really clean.
neverceases
neverceases
Listen to fiber: I'm one of those people that doesn't check because I simply don't give a rat's hairy ass. My H cheated and I checked in the beginning but now I don't care. I also have no intention of continuing our relationship until I get what I need out of it.

Complete transparency is the price of admission for what you did. It probably won't last forever and maybe it will be because your h trusts you again. Maybe not. Beware of the latter
deleted_user
deleted_user
3+ years later and I still check! Wife, by mutual agreement, doesn't do social networking, I check her phone (even though she had a pre-paid cell, I look through her car, purse & pockets on occasion. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me again, shame on me! I'm just way more vigilant than I was before!