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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Can you suggest a book?

lance139169
lance139169
I have seen a lot of people in this forum recommend the book "Not Just Friends". From what I have learned, this is a book for those couples that decide to try to keep their marriage together after an affair. My question is this; does anyone have a recommendation for a good book in situations where the couple divorces after an affair?

Hoping you can help me, and perhaps others who read your reply.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Actually that book helps to understand how it happens from all sides and also has a part that is there for those that are moving on alone.
Lstecker
Lstecker
Wow, Lance, I have no idea. I divorced after the affair and didn't read a thing - and it sure would have been great to have some resources!

Do some internet research. That's what I would do if I were you.

This place will help so much. I wish I had found this when my divorce was going thru. Didn't find it until a few years after - and it STILL helps me.

Sending you support and hope you have some luck! If you do, bring the info back and share?

L~
deleted_user
deleted_user
One of the best books that my H and I have used is :"Getting Past the Affair" . It can be used together or alone. It has many good ways to help you understand and heal.
cbazan
cbazan
If you go to Amazon.com and type the name of not just friends, it will suggest similar books. You can also do a simple google search and type books to help ease the pain of cheating or books to help a betrayed spouse into the search engine. You will have to play around with the words, but you will find a bunch of stuff. GOD LUCK AND FEEL BETTER.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I got that book after I found out and wanted to continue and work on our relationship and it is the most amazing book. It helped me through every step. It is a MUST read.
deleted_user
deleted_user
'Not Just Friends' helped me quite a bit, and yes, as of right now - we're choosing reconciliation for our marriage. I do recall a chapter for betrayeds who are not still with their cheating spouse. The book helped me tremendously.

It's embarrasing, but a trip to the bookstore might yield great results for you. I went during the first two weeks, and there are TONS of books on the subject. I was smack in the middle of my 'Numb and I don't give a damn' phase, so I really didn't care what people thought of my book selections if they happened to see.

If you don't feel like getting out - the internet is also marvelous. My only issue with internet searches on the subject, is that it's almost like a downward spiral for me. That's just me though.