Unfortunately, when someone shows you who they are, then believe them.

Leopards rarely change their spots,and it seems he hasn't tried to or had the desire to.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, but at least you know now, for sure, what you're working with.

Many hugs.

SUX - so sorry and I can relate. I was in a relationship w/a person that via txt, FB and other social sites constantly stayed in touch w/women - it got to where I even found him on dating sites - he would down play it - claiming "that's just me killing time" - was sick. For sometime I even questioned myself and wondered if I was even thinking too hard - long story short - he never stopped disrespecting me - I had to stand up for myself and begin respecting myself. PPL these days feel no remorse for things they do and technology makes it to where they don't even think is cheating - IT IS CHEATING TO ME. I rather be solo that to deal w/the madness.

I know how you feel. So sorry.

I cant change your heart on how you feel about your H..Only he can ..if he wants you , he needs to realize or a wake up call that the best thing of his life is ready to walk
he needs to understand the grass is never greener on the other side, you and i have alot in common 1) we do not get that emotional embracement no truth ,no apologies , just a cold front .. as we try on our own to heal on what has been done..we all her for you just pop in a vent it out , like i do !! lol
hang in there just show no weakness around him ! your better than 1

Part of the thrill of the A is the sneaking around.

Let them both know you know.

Take a picture you have of him, photoshop a BIG red bow and put it on top of his head, send the pic to her and say Merry Christmas!

Then throw the bum out.

TTM1727 said it so well. When someone shows you who they are,believe them. Please listen to this advice. He doesn't think that his relationship with you is worth being faithful over. Sorry to say that to you. You deserve better.

go back on his F/B message box check deleted messages ... by typing his/her name in the search box ..where the messages are ..thats how i found my wifes convo with her so called friend ..they can delete all they want .. but it can be recovered thought i throw that out there

As hard as it is to know, it's better to find out then to keep living in the dark. As TTMI729 said, "leopards don't change their spots. " I'm so sorry. I've been there myself.

Sorry startinanew,

If you all are suppose to be "starting a new" he is doing a very poor job. I love you sweetie??? Call you tomorrow???


Like you said, why bother?

Today we were planning an evening together and he sits down urns on his Facebook and starts chatting with her while i sit here alone watching TV. Wh do I let it hurt me..I know its never going to change but i guess part of me hopes it will. I am such a fool. :(

So wait, you mean he is sitting right in front of you talking to another woman? And you are here with us?

He have absolutely no respect for you and why should he? You don't demand it. He will only do what you let him do to you but the main thing here is HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS.

I can't say much more because no matter what we say this is your battle. We can give you all kinds of battle strategies but they mean nothing if you don't even show up to the battlefield. But really...I would wave the white flag because doesn't want a monogamous relationship with you, I think he has made that pretty clear. He is not even pretending otherwise.

Your NOT a fool but take time to reread your post and let it sink in. Try to seperate your feelings towards him. Imagine a time machine and you could run into "you". The. You before you met him. Before any love, attachment or connection. What advice would you tell her?


If he's not changing, he's not changing and your allowing him to shit on you. Love yourself enough to not allow such poppycock crapola!

Pink

I even wonder if the "soulmate... maybe" isn't even you, but the OOW.

I'd give him the X-Mas gift of my boot up his @$$ as I kick him out the door.

Oh we had a huge fight after I posted the last comment. He said he only did it to prove to me that she was just a friend. That I could sit beside him and read his conversation while he was talking to her and then that way I would know there was nothing going on between the too of them. Just want to get through the holidays and with the new year comes new changes in my life.

Oh we had a huge fight after I posted the last comment. He said he only did it to prove to me that she was just a friend. That I could sit beside him and read his conversation while he was talking to her and then that way I would know there was nothing going on between the too of them. Just want to get through the holidays and with the new year comes new changes in my life. "

Sounds like smokin Mirrors or a front ..like i said you can go back and recover all the messages hes been typing away at .. scroll back i explained how , ask the SOB how he feel or like it if you did it? .... and i would'nt fight over it, you have a better arguement with a door knob ! just say'n Dear