Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
This is my first time here and y’all may tell me I’m crazy but I just need someone to talk to that’s not related or a friend.
I found out after 27 yrs of marriage and 32 yrs together that my husband was Facebook messaging flirting very inappropriate make flirty comments on girls he knew from high school post. I have no clue if he has actually cheated but he was going to strip clubs found out he joined local hook-up sites (swears he was just curious never did anything ) he deletes all his phone log and instant messages I found he had numerous email accounts and he had girls numbers in his phone.
With all that being said he is not able to have intimate relations as far as I know we have not had actual relations since his he had the widow maker 5 yrs ago.
Am I crazy to be upset that he has done these things not to mention I know he took a “friend” girl he’s says he’s known forever to a concert my fave band. He can’t give me any logical answers except he didn’t feel loved and needed someone to talk to it’s making me angry, I’m looking everywhere to find out what else I don’t know about.
Here is the hard hard part I want to forgive and get on with our life but I just found a draft where he had been on the Craigslist’s personals on his email it was titled home alone w4m and it was at the same time period as the other bs he’s been doing but this one HURTS more than the others I almost left tonight he swears he didn’t do it but he’s been lying to me for so long and I didn’t even know we were in this place how stupid I feel. I have stayed by this man through every hospital stay and I’m still here.
Now the fun part he tells me I’m jealous and I can’t trust him and he can’t live like that he left me 3 times and stayed in a hotel over night because of my anger ( yeah right) I’m just broken and can’t see me ever being whole again! If y’all thing I’m crazy please tell me but my gut keeps telling me there’s more I just have not discovered it yet.
We just spent half our live savings on a new truck and camper to travel and I don’t know what to do!
Thanks for listening to me I am sure I talked to much.
I know this is not a drug forum but he has been doing coke for over a year and I didn’t even know!
Any advice would be apppreciated!
I had everything in black and white and he still denied it until he finally told me he was curious omg forgot about him calling an escort service also told me he never talked to any of them but my gosh how am
i suppose to feel!
He's obviously cheating. Get tested. Get counseling.
Get rid of him. He's going to be a financial drain on you when he snorts up the rest of your life savings.
He is completely self destructive you will get caught up in it.
Your H IS cheating. It sounds like he has another life entirely!
There might not be much left of your marriage. He has to be willing to give up this other life and be completely transparent and work hard on rebuilding your trust.
If I were you I would develop my own secret life - one that involves a good lawyer and financial planner. I'd get out now and not invest another second with this guy.
Good luck to you. This has to be devastating.
I agree unfortunately with above listen to ur gut. Ur husband is cgeating on you. I'm so sorry but everything you sat is so typical cheating behaviour. He has became extremely good at lying and cheaters don't ever admit to something tgey were not caught on. So he will keep lying untill you dig deep enough and finf more evidence.
No one is on meet up sites and tgan doesn't meer up. Craigslist is notorious hookup place for cheaters. It's not ok to make inappropriate comments about other women or messages and no it's not ok for him to go with this random women to the concert . He didn't go just to a concert. Also the times he left you for the night in a hotel he was cheating.
He's is now putting the ultimate guilt trip on you. The "you need to trust me or I leave" the "nothing happened" no ur gut is right.
I'm worried for ur health please get STD tested asap. Get some counseling for urself. Dig deeper through his search history in his computer and go in his junk mail and bring back deleted messages. Just anything to find ur proof.
He's not renorsefull or honest which at this point makes it impossible to recover from an affair.
Take good care if urself in this horrible time. So sorry ur going through this. Don't feel shy to reach out here for help were all here to support each other in similar situations. Hugs