If you haven't consider counseling, it may be something to look into. Find out the reasons behind your behavior.

As far as your man goes, if you can't be faithful to him, I would cut him loose until you figure it out.

L~

Let me guess ... you have a child with him?

Not sure what "I try and stop but can't" means - how do you TRY to stop? Are you telling these guys no? Are you ignoring their calls and texts?

There's a whole lot more to this story than you're sharing, and its doubtful that you really want help with this. I think you love attention.

I have kids with one man and I don't like the attention.
I have ppd and pstd and I did go see a male counsellor and that didn't go to well, eg I slept with him.
I have informed calls from this other guy, even after the 50th called he has made.
I cut off the net for 2 months, made sure I didn't have a phone on me and that worked.

It is obvious something more is going on here. It sounds like a problem you are having. Just because one counselor betrayed his license and destroyed the patient/client relationship by having sex with you doesn't mean you should stop seeking help. What you are describing is more serious than any of us could help you with. You need a trained counselor/psychologist to deal with what is going on. We could give advice, but it is obvious something inside of you doesn't want to stop, or you would.

I'm tempted to link to the Bob Newhart skit about "Stop it!" for this. Really, until you arrive at the point where you desire that and are willing to do what it takes, it isn't likely to stop.

When anyone comes and post their cheating I do a quick check .. you been a member here aug 8 2011..setting This profile is private only...***I have kids with one man and I don't like the attention.... On another site you say you were raped and became pregnant by what happened..seam to only have 1 kid...My stbc and I srent getting along and I told him that I no long want be with him. ..on another you post how wonderful your husband is like hes a saint with kids.. another you talk of your bf with kids... but on your other groups post you have 1 or 2 or 3 kids did find information of a 4th...you make no mention of being separated or divorced... seem to be bouncing around and cant keep your stories straight...aug 8/ 20/11 to 12/23/2012 you been real busy

I have being a member since 2008 and had to close the account.
I have being very busy, I have 4 kids and yes I was raped and am raising that child. the father of 4th child I keep to myself until I know that person.
I go from one relationship to another since I separated from hubby, something my ds friends know, I do have bf.
they are good with my children, very good.
here in oz, we do call live in bf hubby.
yes I have being busy, my eldest is grown, and the father of 4th pays for daycare for her, 3 days a week, and my other children are high school and primary schooled aged, so I have 3 days to myself.
so does that answer any questions ?

Yes, it takes two to tango, but you should be on Dancing With the Stars! Seems like you do a perfect tango!
Find a Love Sex Addicts Annonymous meeting near you and GO!
I can believe all of your problems if you can't control yourself. Clearly, you have an addiction to sex! Seek help now!

don't watch dancing with stars,
I don't sleep with every guy, only the same couple of guys I know.
I'm treated very very very well by bf, too good
may be I should join a group

It may take two to tango, but you already have a dancing partner. Meaning, you need to decline the invitation. It really isn't that hard to be a decent person. Maybe put forth some effort. No contact with the other men is a good start. I really hope these other men don't have commited women waiting for them at home. No need to ruin everyone's lives. Go to a counselor and try to find some dignity and self respect.

they all single, so not breaking up any families.

Yeah you are, you are breaking up your kids chance at a "family" and committing them to a life of less success.

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2012/dec/25/fathers-disappear-from-households-across-america/

You are acknowledging you need to change, so do it. You need to totally write off sex with all these guys for a while till you get your head straight.

You have kids now, your life is bigger than just yourself. Time to stop being a kid yourself, and be a woman!

I think I know why you can't stop - I see the same trend in your responses : rationalizing and minimizing your actions and their impact on you, your bf and your children. There is something wrong with your conscience - you know what you are doing is wrong, but it doesn't look like you are experiencing true and deep remorse, because if you did, it would make you feel physically ill to even think about having sex with these men.
I don't know how to help someone develop remorse.
When I was a teenager I was on the wrong path in life and there was this one person in my life, a true friend, who delivered such a powerful speech to me one day that it shook me out of my seat. She called me names that no one wants to hear, but she made me see certain things I refused to see.
Sometimes this is what it takes and unfortunately neither a therapist nor a priest will ever say these things to you in order to wake up your conscience.

Refuse to engage. Smile we are the kind of people who respect our vows. : )

Bumping this as a reminder of smiles cheating attitude.

im not married ao i dont have vows.