Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I was really having a good week and then bam Friday hit. I went to a complete low. My CS has agreed to call me from his work phone when he gets to work and before he leaves. Well he didnt. He called an hr later.; then texted me later in day and said he was leaving early since I was sick. Well that time went and past and no CS and no phone call. His excuse was he got stuck at work.....I know he wasnt lying but after all he put me through couldnt he at least give me the peace of mind of the phone call.
Well sh*t hit the fan. All I could think of is he was with her and have images of what they have done together. By the time he got home and said his usual sorrys I was out of control...I am almost ashamed to say. His clothes were thrown by the door. I was yelling, crying and screaming. I was just so angry. I dont get this way esp. when the teenagers are home. They were upstairs and got really upset and he said he would leave I began to pack my stuff and load into car. I finally got calmed down and talked to my girls and they asked me to stay. So I did. CS and I had a long talk and he said he thought i was just trying to control him with the calls; he didnt know that they produced the images.
Saturday went really well and then Sunday comes and I am so upset and angry again. I was doing so well for a few weeks then bam I am back at the beginnning. Its been over 2 months when will I feel better. I am so sick of this. This isnt what I signed up for. I trusted him like no one else(I had trust issues) and sometimes I wonder if it is all worth it. Sorry I vented for so long but feels good to get it out!
Well sh*t hit the fan. All I could think of is he was with her and have images of what they have done together. By the time he got home and said his usual sorrys I was out of control...I am almost ashamed to say. His clothes were thrown by the door. I was yelling, crying and screaming. I was just so angry. I dont get this way esp. when the teenagers are home. They were upstairs and got really upset and he said he would leave I began to pack my stuff and load into car. I finally got calmed down and talked to my girls and they asked me to stay. So I did. CS and I had a long talk and he said he thought i was just trying to control him with the calls; he didnt know that they produced the images.
Saturday went really well and then Sunday comes and I am so upset and angry again. I was doing so well for a few weeks then bam I am back at the beginnning. Its been over 2 months when will I feel better. I am so sick of this. This isnt what I signed up for. I trusted him like no one else(I had trust issues) and sometimes I wonder if it is all worth it. Sorry I vented for so long but feels good to get it out!
So, his having to call you is your trying to control him? Control him? Really?
Wrong answer!
His answer should be, 'if this is what it takes to rebuild what I broke with you, it's a small task to ask.'
Just my opinion, L~
Are you in counseling together? Someone needs to educate him about what it takes to rebuild. I know calling up a guy named Guido to educate him might feel just as good, but not terribly productive.
Controlling you, huh? Poppycock. I wanted to say something more vulgar but I hadn't used that word in a while. How are your daughters taking all of this? It's so hard trying to hold it together for the family. Hugs and support to you.
I am so careful of not showing anger around them and they had actually asked why I was so calm and put up with his sh*t.....lol So when I finally let loose they felt fear of what would happen next.
Yes we are in IC now with MC merging later on. He has called today and actually told me he was sorry but had no idea that i had images. All i wanted to say is REALLY?
Eventually you may have to let go for the control for your own sake. because it really can get addictive and exhoust you. Anyways, your case is fresh, and your actions totally understandable. I am afraid that you H has some other underlyiing issues him even saying that.
The pain of betrayal, the loss of trust and the fear that things will never be the same again are very real. Don't pressure yourself to feel better. It will happen with time and professional help. Unfortunately, it takes alot of both.
Good luck.
I am living your story too. I have two teenage daughters who also ask me why am I so calm. My oldest refers to her father as the "ass" the youngest is disgusted by him. I have tried with all my might to keep it together. 12 weeks in and I am riding a rollercoaster that seems to have no end. My cheating husband also gave over 150,000 dollars to his lover. She played him well. The girls do not know just how bad their father is. So very sad. I wish you and your chidlren well. I think it is ok to cry in front of them. Moms and dads have feelings too.