Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
before I joined I read seveal discussions on the no contact issue between the 2 that had the affair. Here is my question. Until I found out about my H affair with my very good friend, they continued to be friends, have contact with each other, hugged each other any time were were around each other. I feel that even though they ended the physical affair a long time ago, they continued to talk, hug, etc... they had contact with each other. I feel that that made the affair continue even though not physical any more still emotional. So, in my mind they had an emotional affair until I found out. They didn't honor the no contact rule. What do you think?
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Was it like they kept up appearances because they were in a circle of friends and it would attract more attention if they did not act as "usual" or did they still communicate when you weren't around. If they still communicated when you weren't around and were alone either in person or phone or e-mail then yes the affair continued. I hope this was helpful.
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In my situation, once the affair was over it was over, nothing emotional at all. We bascially had to be friendly to eachother over the years as to not draw attention from our circle of friends. The only emotional attachment I had after the affair was to his wife, my friend, who I miss dearly.
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Keeping up appearances for the sake of their circle of friends might be all well and good but what about your feelings - surely that counts for more. My husband works with the girl he had the affair with (almost 1 year now) so they obviously need to have some contact in the work place, but what does that do for my self confidence, trust etc. especially when I find emails he still sends her that arent work related. Sorry but I seem to be getting nowhere fast in trying to work things out with H - just cant accept the fact that they are together every single day of the week - surely something triggers the memory of their sexual illicit night together when he sees her with her tight fitting clothes and everything popping out(which I HAve seen)Am I being stupid?? or what
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Every situation is different. They could have kept up appearances to cover up the mess they made. It could have been an emotional affair, but then again maybe not. I think the question here is what do you want to do now? If they are still doing that it would be bad, but if not then why still worry about it if you are gonna stay with him? Just a question. Is he still doing these type of things.. Do you think he is remorseful? Do you love him? do you believe he does love you? Those are questions I ask myself. If you must know why they did these things you should ask your H or former friend or whatever you call that if you are still on speaking terms. There should be no communication between them anymore if you are staying with him.
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