If your mutual friends tell her they are not friends. Send out invites do not post it in social media. Hire security at the event and give them her picture.
Have fun.. congratulations

Congrats on your healing.

I don't want to rain on your parade....but statistically recidivism for cheaters who cheat before a marriage are high after a marriage as well.

Of course I realize 99% leaves room for the 1% of those who don't, but if you go through with marrying him would you consider a pre-nup with a infidelity clause?

Excellent idea, forwardmotion! Yes, you should do the pre-nup with an infidelity clause for sure.

And why not do a destination wedding? It is less likely that the OW would travel to upset your wedding plans.

Congratulations!!! I'm glad you guys are stronger. I hope he deserves you!

Thanks y'all I really appreciate the feed back we are not having a big wedding just a few family and few friends and it will not be close to home so that's a plus as far as prenup I don't need we aren't rich so no issue there most everything is in my name including house which he could never have even if I was to die it would go to my kids I also adviced him that this will be my one and only marriage so even if we don't make it together I will never sign divorce papers if he cheats again or leaves whatever the case may be he is not getting a divorce from me he can go on and me too but we will always be married legally but I've learned that I can't control other people just my choices and he can choose to be with me or against me and what I will tolerate and not tolerate anymore cause I tolerated alot of bs in the past i gave him a second chance and if he messes that up it's on him!!!

Even if there isn't a lot of money the house and custody can be hashed out in the event of a divorce. In most countries and states can divorce you unilaterally. It just takes longer.

I think you better consult a lawyer.

Where I live if just one spouse wants a divorce, he/she gets it. And if they cannot decide on a division of property, a judge decides and that it.

Furthermore, in most states one cannot disinherit a spouse. So the spouse inherits a portion, usually one third, of the total estate of the deceased.
Their are many famous cases where a rich man tried to disinherit his wife.
Joe Robbie who owned the Miami Dolphins did just that. The widow filed for what is called her elective share and she got it.

You said you are not going to control other people's choices, but look what you are doing here. And you are doing it without knowledge of the law.
Not smart. See a lawyer and get your finances buttoned down. If you don't do it now, before you are married, I think you will be more than surprised - you will be very sorry.

If only we were rich lol we pretty much live pay check to pay check like most middle class families these days.....im not materialistic so things don't matter to me my house he will never get vehicles all in my name all I need is one my kids are not little my son pretty much takes care of his self and will be a legal adult in a year my daughter is 10....my job pays enough for me to survive on my own.....honestly I have thought about all this when he cheated.....I don't NEED him I WANT him there is a difference......Im very old school my sister is on her fifth marriage everyone I know has been married more than once so i figure we either fix what is messed up and move on or we end it and I don't wanna be married more than once to figure out what I want in life what I have right now is what I want.......my Father and Mother divorced when I was young they hadn't been together in over 20 years my dad was on his 3rd marriage he was happy but 3years ago he found out he had cancer he died february last year but I remember my dad telling me when he was getting real sick and he knew me and my H was having problems my dad said he wished he could have mad things work with my mom they just gave up too soon and that if me and my H could work it out then try and don't fight so much... I remember those words a lot......then my mom came to stay with us a few months after my dad had passed she would just sit and talk to me she had her own demons she was on her third marriage and it had failed ... that's why she was moving in with us so towards the end of that year mom would say how dad was the the love of her life and how she wished they would have worked things out ( i never told her what my dad had told me about the same thing) so its december and my my passes away from a heartattack but i found her and could not help her....this was all last year but my belief is that they were soul mates and I think my mom's heart was broken the most when my dad died even tho they weren't together anymore.....i truly believe they were meant to be together but couldn't figure out how to make it work.......so me and my H i think we both owe it to ourselves to work on it and see if this is where we are suppose to be if it doesn't work then so be it but I wanna at least say we tried our best......sorry for the story or errors in spelling I guess I just needed to get that off my chest thanks for listening.

I get it because my parents divorced too when I was a teenager and their lives have not been great since. It was also due to infidelity and general marriage issues.

In the same way when I got married I wanted to make it last and did do my part to ensure this. However, after my wife's adultery I understand that this is something beyond marital discord and is a complete betrayal and something that really does warrant a divorce.

We have a witnessed post-nup at this time which we will shortly notarize.

It really doesn't matter if the house is in your name because it is the matrimonial home so that gets divided between you two. It doesn't matter for anything really that an asset is in one name or another because they will even award pension divisions in divorce.

If you guys broke up now it would be the case where they would see you as common law and likely assets would be divided 50/50.

There is no harm consulting a lawyer just to give you a clear understanding of this.

In many states there is no such thing as common law .. at least in California there isn’t. A pre-nup isn’t for rich people. It’s a statement that says you get caught cheating again, you pay me and I keep everything & 1/2 of your retirement.