Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My husband of nearly seven years had a lengthy affair while waiting 20 months for his visa in South America. The only reason I found out is because I saw the text transcript of their messages to each other on his email. I found out 12/6. We have two children together. He wants me to forget about it and move on, admits it was wrong, is embarrassed, blah blah. He claims he just used her because he was lonely and wanted attention. He doesn't understand that no matter what I do, I think about it every day. I've never been cheated on and have no idea how to handle this. Last night he told me that I don't satisfy him,,,,,I figure he's lucky if I sleep with him at all. I am starting to think we won't make it through this.
it is a shame for his children that he disrespects their mother so much
respect yourself as a person
respect yourself as a mother
...divorce this self-centered-shitbag
At this point it doesn't look very hopefull. There is no way in hell that a B.S. can just forget and move on. That's not how cheating works. It's not an "oopsie" type if thing. It involves lost trust in your partner that's huge.
He says he's sorry but is he really. I epumd sat if hes not working on his usdues tgat ley him to do this he will simply do it again the next time when ur relationship is a bit down.
Read the post further down below as in what a truly remorsefull spouse does to help their B.S. heal. (Post is called welcome to the newly betrayed) and see how your CS is doing as to me it's not very hopefull wgat you ate describing. Please get STD tested. Cheaters don't use protection. Good luck sorry your going through this
And when his loving wife discovers the affair, he just tells you to forget about it. Does he think you don't have feelings or does he just not care? Forget about it? Sure, why not? Every husband should get a free pass for betraying his wife as well as openly admitting to using and discarding another human being.
He's giving you a heads up that you don't satisfy him because in his world, he is the only thing that matters. It's a warning to learn to look over affairs because he's entitled to have them if the two of you are separated, if you don't SATISFY him, or if he just needs a little something extra on the side.
Well, that's some of the most misogynistic, egotistical BS I've ever heard. He's telling you point blank how he values men and women. In his world, it's all about him. Women are creatures with secondary status. I'm almost certain he does not feel you are entitled to a divorce either. Good women don't do that. They just let their husband walk all over them and do whatever they want.
It's nothing you did wrong and there is nothing you can do to change him.
The level of selfishness is at the narcissistic level if not sociopathic level.
He used the OW for sex and he uses you for life stability and your family as a badge so he can hide his true self from others in the guise of a family man.
I doubt this is a misogynist issue and that he treats everyone as an object or player in his own world.
The lack of remorse and flippant response to your pain as a human being supports this line of reasoning.
Get a lawyer as I would wager he would be as unscrupulous in a divorce settlement.