Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
i need Advice. Long story short, I found way too late, 3 kids in, that my husband has been cheating out while relationship.
Im trying to her the nerve to talk to him again about going to counseling. But, after 13 years I know there isn’t much hope.
Woth 3 kids I don’t want divorce, as I know it isn’t good for the kids. We don’t fight in front of them and somehow hold it together. I know they aren’t seeing a good example of a loving marriage, but think it would have a more negative outcome being split from us together.
With his focus on himself and his double life he doesn’t give them kids the attention they need.
advice?
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having a parent that is phony sucks for the kids...you accepting that your partner is phony sucks for the kids
your kids father does not prioritize the family
your kids will be better off if your prioritize their family without phony cheating daddy
You are the adult in this equation. It will be BEST for you to bite the bullet and do what you know has to be done. Which may, or may not, be getting a divorce.
Are you going to individual counseling?
1. Divorce sucks for kids.
2. Allowing kids to grow up in family where one is unfaithful is also very damaging.
It is hard to know what is best for the children, which should be the primary concern.
It appears that the father isn't much of a father to begin with so being around him less may be a benefit in the long run. He isn't a good role model for your kids to follow or expect out of a spouse in the future.
Money is also a factor. Can he afford to pay enough spousal/child support that your kids do no grow up in poverty?
Is living in the same house as him affecting your ability to heal and be a good mother?
How old are the kids because younger kids may have more difficult dealing with divorce vs a cheating father?
For anyone who has no kids it is a easy decision to leave the cheater. You will need to weigh out all the pros and cons regarding the effect on your kids.
There is no great decision here, just the best one of the options you now have due to your husband's choices.