Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I need to know I'm not alone in this.
He is willing to do whatever it takes to keep me but I'm not understanding why. Why would a man want to keep a wife if he wants to go have fun too?
I think I'm looking at redefining marriage for us, contemplating is he worth working through his BS, and since I'm not ready to divorce at this point - What boundaries to put up so that I'm okay in this marriage at such an unsafe and ridiculous time.
I thought of:
having separate bedrooms
therapy
I don't want him to tough me
No drinking while without me
I basically want to "break up" not divorce
I think too, maybe going on a marriage therapy retreat at some point
What are other changes you have found helpful that has allowed room for healing?
He is willing to do whatever it takes to keep me but I'm not understanding why. Why would a man want to keep a wife if he wants to go have fun too?
I think I'm looking at redefining marriage for us, contemplating is he worth working through his BS, and since I'm not ready to divorce at this point - What boundaries to put up so that I'm okay in this marriage at such an unsafe and ridiculous time.
I thought of:
having separate bedrooms
therapy
I don't want him to tough me
No drinking while without me
I basically want to "break up" not divorce
I think too, maybe going on a marriage therapy retreat at some point
What are other changes you have found helpful that has allowed room for healing?
My h is completely remorseful and is doing everything he can to try and repair himself and us. So instead of pushing each other away, we are closer than ever. He has been forced to look at himself and his feelings. We talk every night, have started having fun together again, work out together, and all of this closeness makes us both crave each other sexually. Our sex is now amazing and I feel so connected when we are together.
If you want to stay with him I would suggest setting boundaries and being very open about your feelings. Counseling helps some so maybe try that. But if your goal is to rebuild, putting a bigger gap in your marriage probably won't help. Make your goal to have a better and stronger marriage than before.
He can love you and his life with you and he could have had selfish , weak moments . He can have issues you guys can work through. I'm only a few months from discovery but things have gotten MUCH better with my husbands willingness to work on it.
I recommend the book "after the affair" to get you started.
And don't hesitate to come here and unload.