Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi Everyone,
For those of who who have no idea of my story, here it is:
http://www.dailystrength.org/people/3039556/journal/6564780
I haven't been back here in probably a month or more. I just wanted to thank everyone who have helped me get through this painful part in my life. Every time you guys told me "Time will heal", I took it as bull, but you guys were totally right, time is everything. time helps you reflect, grow, and it helps you move on.
I know that I am not 100% better but I would say maybe 70%?...i think that is good enough. It is going to be now 4 months since my "husband" left. I put husband in quotation marks, because he shouldnt even be considered one.
Any wya, I filed for the divorce, he received the papers and we are finishing that up. He has tried to contact me over $50 that i owe him, and when i saw contact me...I mean he has harassed me. I am so proud of myself by not answering his messages.
I just wanted to write this entry to those who are going through this beginning phase. Where you don't want to live anymore, you feel worthless, you blame your self. When the dust settles you will be able to see everything for what it was. Do not give up on your happiness. Being with someone isn't the only form of happiness. Try to be on your own, find your self, be happy with who you are.
When we all find the right person, loving someone and being loved by someone shouldn't be complicated nor painful. I am so proud of the person I have become, even the small little things have made me more independent.
So to all of those who feel you will be stuck in this ditch forever, YOU WILL NOT!!! BUT..only if you put in work. Put in work by loving yourself, surrounding yourself with good people, doing things you couldn't do, and very importantly, going to counseling! It really does get better. Time is so precious when we are going through these painful moments.
Its ok to have fallen for the wrong person, it is ok to have loved beyond measure, that only shows that we all have a pure heart and that we are capable of love. We should pray for those that hurt us, because at the end, they are all really just sad people.
THANK YOU THANK YOU, to all of you have helped me...who have read the same posts over and over again of "I cant do this anymore, I dont want to live" and still have managed to send some kind words my way.
I hope I am of help to any of you here :)
For those of who who have no idea of my story, here it is:
http://www.dailystrength.org/people/3039556/journal/6564780
I haven't been back here in probably a month or more. I just wanted to thank everyone who have helped me get through this painful part in my life. Every time you guys told me "Time will heal", I took it as bull, but you guys were totally right, time is everything. time helps you reflect, grow, and it helps you move on.
I know that I am not 100% better but I would say maybe 70%?...i think that is good enough. It is going to be now 4 months since my "husband" left. I put husband in quotation marks, because he shouldnt even be considered one.
Any wya, I filed for the divorce, he received the papers and we are finishing that up. He has tried to contact me over $50 that i owe him, and when i saw contact me...I mean he has harassed me. I am so proud of myself by not answering his messages.
I just wanted to write this entry to those who are going through this beginning phase. Where you don't want to live anymore, you feel worthless, you blame your self. When the dust settles you will be able to see everything for what it was. Do not give up on your happiness. Being with someone isn't the only form of happiness. Try to be on your own, find your self, be happy with who you are.
When we all find the right person, loving someone and being loved by someone shouldn't be complicated nor painful. I am so proud of the person I have become, even the small little things have made me more independent.
So to all of those who feel you will be stuck in this ditch forever, YOU WILL NOT!!! BUT..only if you put in work. Put in work by loving yourself, surrounding yourself with good people, doing things you couldn't do, and very importantly, going to counseling! It really does get better. Time is so precious when we are going through these painful moments.
Its ok to have fallen for the wrong person, it is ok to have loved beyond measure, that only shows that we all have a pure heart and that we are capable of love. We should pray for those that hurt us, because at the end, they are all really just sad people.
THANK YOU THANK YOU, to all of you have helped me...who have read the same posts over and over again of "I cant do this anymore, I dont want to live" and still have managed to send some kind words my way.
I hope I am of help to any of you here :)
Last weekend we had a couple of dates ( we are trying to reconcile ) and she stated that she was staying at another freinds house that was closer. I just discovered however that she stay at a Hotel instead for that weekend.
Should I ask her about it, or let it go and hope that she did not do anything wrong at the hotel. I need her to be honest and open with me but at the same time do not want to and to the conflict as we are trying to work things out through therapy.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it is painful to sit back and imagine all the different things your spouse could be doing while they are not with you.
I do think that since you guys are trying to reconcile, everything needs to be laid out in the table, no more lies, no more secrets. I think that it is great that you are going to therapy and I think that this would be a perfect place to bring it up in, since you do have a mediator there.
One thing that has helped me through this is... If you were capable of being faithful to her, why don't you deserve the same? My mistake in my relationship is that i forgave, and I forgave too quickly and that made my ex thing that I am a doormat and he kept lying and lying.