I would think that work would be No. 1. Interesting!

Well, the first OM was at a business she cleaned, so he was at work. Then she found lots of guys willing to sex chat on line. The second local OM she snagged was at a gym.

I'd have a hard time believing tennis and running clubs rank that high. Especially compared to work place affairs, which is very common. Also, another source seems to be family and friends/neighbors.

But I'd be curious how they interpret affairs. I'm guessing pretty narrowly as in PA. if you threw all EAs in there too, I would suspect online to be #1. And many of those become PAs as well.

Facebook, classmates, internet is way up there too.

I don't know where that information came from, but I would guess work, bars, Facebook

my CS met her in a bar, and in less than three hours, took her to his hotel room for sex and continued the horrible affair for 11 months,he literally started a completely new relationship with her as if I did not exsist,he gave me and our marriage no thought, or so he says, except he did give it thought,becasue he told her we were seperatated and it wasn't working out, and then he told me that after they went to the hotel, after they had started kissing and touching and possibley gotten into the bed, but before they had sex not only private personal medical inform. that we were NOT separated....and they had unprotected sex anyway...and spent the night together and in the morning, he claims he looked in the mirror and said to himself, what am i doing/wnat have i done....kissed her good bye "see you later", not GOOD BYE, i am sorry this ever happened....and then talked/texted/fb/emailed and met her for the night/had phone sex for 11 months all the time lying to my face in our most intimate places I STILL AFTER ALMOST NINE MONTHS JUST WANT TO DIE............

My EW was "party"

Internet and cell phones have ruined so many lives and caused so much pain out there!

That sounds like something written in the 80's. Today the main place people here at ds share are work, through friends, and Internet (fb, chat rooms etc...

Older man here. My wife's began at a college where she "ran into" a former boyfriend (can't be sure that was where she "ran into" him; the second began at a high school reunion; and the third I guess at a dinner party.

I don't "get devastated" anymore. I had several love affairs, very intense and lasting one, before I was married and knew how awful they could be; the pain you allow yourself to feel lessens with experience. I found the best way is to dump 'em if you don't think you can ever be normal again. With my wife I found I could be almost perfectly normal as I thought about the reasons she did these things ... I'm not so perfect myself, you see.