I planned a trip (as he didn't seem like he cared). Got sick the night before and the day traveling to the location (felt like crap). Next day our anniversary - I was okay feeling better until we were walking in the mall and I veered towards a jewelry store (I thought to my self - maybe we can get new rings to signify our love - new start) well he made the comment we don't need that useless stuff and blocked me from the stores. I was furious - yes I didn't say anything but you would think on your 25th anniversary your wife would want some kind of jewelry. He hadn't given me a card or anything said he ran out of time. I don't understand why as I planned the entire getaway and made arrangements for our kids, the to do lists for the grandparents, cleaned house, etc. I am the one who ran out of time to get him something (which I didn't get him anything and I have always done something in the past - but my heart has been broken especially since New Years). Grant it the day before New Years he handed me my Christmas gift and said he forgot to give it to me and said to me by the way I am moving out - what a present. I said fine but then this present doesn't means anything. Maybe that had something to do with - but you don't do that to someone. He use to get me cards/flowers, etc. Nothing. Not sure if he is still seeing the other woman - if he is - then he can have her - as I have told him to his face. I am not going to have someone who cheated for 3 years and then and another 3 years saying he wasn't seeing her and he was as a friend. So continued with our anniversary I was mad the rest of the trip, we argued alot - he was expecting sex everyday and for me to initiate it. Sorry ain't going to happen. He thinks only of himself, I don't ever tell him no that he can't buy something - he chooses not to. I never tell him he does something the wrong way (except the affair) - I always tell him he looks good and whatever he fixes or makes that it looks great. But he tells me when I don't do something right, or do we really need that, or that is not the correct way of doing something - irritates me and I have told him and then says fine I won't say anything at all. He acts like a child sometimes. Don't know how much longer I can go on. I need someone to love me, tell me I look great or whatever I have done that I did a good job. Need someone to be honest and kind. He use to be this but since that other woman came in between us - he has changed. He says so have I - yes I have as my heart has been ripped out and and no he doesn't ask me to change anything but if he would and the other shoe was on the other foot, I would do whatever it took to make my spouse happy. Trying to make decisions - so hard. None of my friends call me anymore or come by. I am all alone. No family any more. Sorry so long - had to vent and get off my chest. Thanks for listening.