Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
How can I go one minute with everything ok, then to a sad moment, then angry and then just not giving a sh*t? This sometimes occurs not only daily but hourly. Its just so confusing to me.
My CS agreed to do a small list of things:
1. call me from work number when u get there, when u leave and come back from lunch, and before u come home.
2. answer all questions
3. have cell phone available to me
4. No contact
This is it....I dont feel this is a hard list do you? He does good for a few days then he forgets to call and offer excuses. His IC even told him that unless a person is dying right beside him he needs to call me. When he doesnt I get the images of them together....they met at lunch and she previously worked for him.
I mean am i overreacting? Last night I was so angry and hurt but then that hurt was just there and I was ok. At least when I cried I didnt feel like this statue I am now. He thinks because he says he is sorry I should just move on and t hen had enough balls to say look back on the last few days and see what we could have. I am like I didnt do this , this is what I told you I needed and it seems to difficult for you? He like I know I will do better I promise and the cycle repeats itself. I am just so sick of the bullsh*t games. Either give me what I need or end it.....I told him do the list or dont do the list time will tell if I add that into my equation of whether I stay or not. I feel sad that I feel so empty inside. Well thanks all for letting me vent! I needed it!
My CS agreed to do a small list of things:
1. call me from work number when u get there, when u leave and come back from lunch, and before u come home.
2. answer all questions
3. have cell phone available to me
4. No contact
This is it....I dont feel this is a hard list do you? He does good for a few days then he forgets to call and offer excuses. His IC even told him that unless a person is dying right beside him he needs to call me. When he doesnt I get the images of them together....they met at lunch and she previously worked for him.
I mean am i overreacting? Last night I was so angry and hurt but then that hurt was just there and I was ok. At least when I cried I didnt feel like this statue I am now. He thinks because he says he is sorry I should just move on and t hen had enough balls to say look back on the last few days and see what we could have. I am like I didnt do this , this is what I told you I needed and it seems to difficult for you? He like I know I will do better I promise and the cycle repeats itself. I am just so sick of the bullsh*t games. Either give me what I need or end it.....I told him do the list or dont do the list time will tell if I add that into my equation of whether I stay or not. I feel sad that I feel so empty inside. Well thanks all for letting me vent! I needed it!
If this is very important to you to help regain trust, then he needs to find a way to do it b
The burden is now on him, if he wants to correct his wrong. i don't think you are out of line.
But you may want to consider whether it is worth it in the end. Is it worth the worry and aggravation. I tried something similar with my wife and despite having every assurance, you can never know, where they say they are or if anything bad is going on. Your instincts work better than any cell phone or calling schedule.
you need to take some time to decide whether the relationship is repairable. If you believe so, then at some point you are going to have to start trusting him again. Be prepared for that.
All very par for the course! You aren't nuts, he is for not getting it! He brought this into your previously "happy home", and now you probably feel like I have, that it is only an "empty shell".
Love makes a home a home. And he hasn't been holding up his part of the bargain, in making the full attempt to repair, and rebuild, that trust which he stole from you.
And then, cuz it was a fricken "lunch thing", makes it worse.
But true, they can call each and every day, and say niceties...but that doesn't prove crap, does it????
I still watch "cheaters" on tv, and see it happen every single fricken time. They chat ya up, like everything is dang ducky, and pull their fricken fucky! It does piss ya off, big time, and hurt all at the same time! We get ya, cuz we all experienced the same dang thing!