other than a few I dont remembers but the councilor said he may not since it was a LTA.

I had 150 questions written down a week after d-day. I've had hundreds since! After almost 2 years, I don't really ask much any more!

You need to ask as many questions as you need for your own healing. I asked a lot of questions and got a lot of details. It was painful to hear but it helped me to understand the depth and meaning of the relationships, especially the latest one. I know what I can and can not tolerate now. Like I said it was painful to hear, but helpful in making an evaluation of the A or plural As in my case, and a determination of the meaning and depth of these relationships.
Ask what you need to but you may not always like the answers you get. They will be hard to hear sometimes!! good luck!!

I would say ask until you're done, but as much as possible, get the bulk of them out of the way as early as possible. There may always be the stray question that pops up down the road, but at six months or more, you don't really want to be in the position of needing to ask a lot of questions all the time. That level of grilling for that long can get tiring for the CS and possibly burn them out.

But it is good that he seems willing to answer them. What I would do is write out your questions on paper. Cut them up into individual pieces of paper, one per question. Stick them in a jar and place them somewhere where he'll see them. Then when he is ready, he can chose which ones to answer. That will give him a chance to read the question, think about it, and formulate a coherent answer that hopefully will be more than just off the top of his head. And give him a chance to attempt to remember details.

But, think hard about what you really need to know. If the answer to a question is needed to help you move on, then ask. If it is only curiosity but probably wouldn't do much to help you get closure, may even give you images that will haunt you, then you may want to not ask those. You're call. But remember, once you've been told info, you can't unhear it, or unknow it. If you have him describe a typical sexual encounter with the woman, for instance, you'll always have those images in your mind and can make things harder for you, not easier. So consider each question carefully as to whether you really need to know it.

It took me a long time to stop asking questions. I think you ask until you feel better. Believe it or not...that day will come. I rarely feel the need to ask questions anymore but then again I think I asked them all.

I found out about one affair about a year ago and then the last affair about six months ago. The questions just recently stopped within the last couple months.

No one can tell you when enough is enough. If you have a question you have to ask, or it will eat at you. Only you will know when you have asked enough and you are comfortable with all his answers. Its good that he is answering them all. Hugs