Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
when two people have sex, an interlocking of spirits is happening, your trully become one with that person, so its more than body fluids exchanging. So when you walk away from that person, you had sex with, even if you never see them again, you are carrying a part of that person with you always.
That is what is the hardest thing to accept, that this other person is now in our relationship. Even though he will never see her again or promises to never see her, she is still there with us.
Sometimes I look into his eyes, just to see if he is trully looking at me, or is he thinking about her. She will never trully be out of our lives.
I have made threats to cheat on him so he could feel how it is, but my conscience won't let me. I know about the interlocking of spirits. I wouldn't want to bring another person along with us.
That is what is the hardest thing to accept, that this other person is now in our relationship. Even though he will never see her again or promises to never see her, she is still there with us.
Sometimes I look into his eyes, just to see if he is trully looking at me, or is he thinking about her. She will never trully be out of our lives.
I have made threats to cheat on him so he could feel how it is, but my conscience won't let me. I know about the interlocking of spirits. I wouldn't want to bring another person along with us.
Gotta say tho - we all feel like this at times. We all look at our spouses, at some time during that reconciliation period, and wonder just who the hell are they thinking of, anyway?
We wonder. It happens. Totally normal.
Do I think this applies to all people? That whoever we have sex with, we carry a part of thier spirit along forever?
...hey, some people can just have sex for the sake of having sex. No feelings involved.
(I watch Jersey Shore once in a while. Some people just have sex for the sake of having sex. Not saying 'always' but it does happen.)
L~
I have talked to him about it and he says he does not do that because he chose to stay with me and he wants to forget what a terrible thing he did. He sounded very sincere when saying this but even so, we as the BS have triggers so why wouldn't the CS? I mean there has to be something along the way that would remind him of her, so therefore he will be thinking about her.
I do know what you mean and I feel it too. It really hurts!