Hi! Hugs to you first off!! My hubby and I were literally the same exact way! My tubes ended up being blocked for unknown reasons and I currently just had my first embryo transferred from IVF. We waited and waited like you had mentioned thinking it would just happen but I just knew something was not right..I went to my GYN to start and she performed tests and blood work..then I was referred to a specialist. I hope everything works out for you!! This site has really helped me everyone's very supportive on here! Baby dust to you!!

My husband and I have been trying for 4 years now. We also just waited it out to see if it would just happen on its own. Like you said every month that goes by takes a chunk of your heart every time. I'm so ready to be a mom too and it is exhausting to go through this journey. But we can't give up or it may really never happen if we do. I just found out my little sister is pregnant and my cousin is pregnant as well. My sister is due on the day my husband and I got engaged and my cousin is due on my husband and my anniversary. It's so hard to see and be a part of but we've got to stay strong. That's why i resorted to this site to meet others that can actually underhand. Prayers for you.

My husband and I have been trying for 15 months. After a year of active trying and nothing, I made an appointment with my gynecologist. We immediately went through a bunch of testing and found out I have PCOS. I am on my first cycle of clomid and I am not very confident this dose is going to be successful. Have you been to a doctor to get some testing done? Hugs to you! I undertake your struggle. I recently ran into this article and have shared it with some of my close friends. I am not religious, but the article is pretty accurate.

http://faithalongtheway.com/10-things-your-friend-struggling-with-infertility-wished-you-knew/

Hi there,

I'm sorry for your heartache, I too understand. I was married at 21 and we tried for 8 years not using anything thinking it would happen when the time was right. Finally went to a specialist and I have PCOS and hubby has low sperm count and mobility. It is so so so hard to watch people you love become pregnant and be happy for them. It is pure torture, because you are truly honestly happy for them, but in that same feeling you are asking why not me and there is a lot of hurt and anger. It's ok, it's natural. Everyone says just wait it will happen. Relax, it will happen...so you try and you wait and wait and wait...my advice is, it has been 9 years...call a specialist and get you and your hubby in for testing. It could be something super simple, or you may need a little more help. I had to have IUI a couple of times, at 30 years old I had my baby boy and I am currently pregnant with a naturally conceived baby (have no idea how that happened after trying to get my first one for 8 years!!!) It is a hard journey and you have to be your own advocate, but I found this website to be the best support, as nobody in my family or my friends understood. Take care and best wishes!!

I'm so sorry for you heartache, and I totally understand.

My husband and I tried for only about two years before we finally saw a specialist. But, every month counts. We were married when I was 34 and finally met with a specialist when I was 36. Our son was born a month before my 38th birthday. We now been trying - with the help of our specialist - for another child for two years. I'm 41 - and not getting any younger! If I had to go back in time, I'd have started investigating with a specialist as early as possible. If you're actively trying, timing your cycles, and you're still not pregnant, it's worth a conversation with a specialist. And if it's an easy "fix" you'll be so thankful you had the conversation.

Best of luck to you!

Hi, I would recommend checking in with a fertility specialist to do some tests.

Hugs and hopes for you! This is my first time posting and I just joined...this seems like such a supportive place. I am so sorry for your heartache, I know this is so sad to say, but I feel so much better knowing there are others going through this. Good luck to you and everyone!