I am so sorry to hear about your news... Stay strong and me heart goes out to you.... HUGS

I don't have advice, but i'm so sorry for your loss. There are others who know what you are going through, and it's a pain i wouldn't wish on anyone. I will truly keep you in my thoughts :'-( *Hugs*

I just miscarried on monday. I would be almost 10 weeks now. I suffer from unexplained anovulation. i conceived on clomid. I went for my first ultrasound and they told me it was a blighted ovum but I miscarried there was a very small baby. I figure it stopped growing as soon as I got pregnant. I ovulated with this pregnancy on the last day of aunt flo. Its been two weeks since i knew my pregnancy would end and I started bleeding 1 week ago. The emotional pain is hard. You lost your child. I think that miscarriages for women who struggle with infertility are harder. You think that you are at the end of the months of dr appointments, personal question, sex that feels like a chore, all the crazy hormones. I know as soon as I poas I automatically loved my little baby. I miscarried naturally, I hope you don't have to. Even though its better for your chances of conceiving again if you don't get a d&c, miscarrying at home is the most heartbreaking and traumatising experience in my life. The physical pain started the day after I started spotting it will be dark brown. My bleeding came and went, I noticed when it stopped I had pain. It didnt feel like cramps. It felt like ripping in my entire midsection I hope I'm not scaring you, I just want you to know what can happen because I was scared.then there was red mixed in the brown and then monday night at 8pm i started getting horrible pain in my back. I was reading in bed and I felt my cervix open and more pain. I asked my husband to help me to the bathroom just in case there was a lot of bleeding. even though i was not far along my body told me to push. My husband held my hands It took 5 minutes and it was all over. The bleeding was pretty heavy for two hours afterwords but the whole miscarriage from beginning to now I havent filled a pad in an entire day. The whole time it was less than a period until during the miscarriage and its less again now. Heating pad will help with the pain. if you fill more than two pads an hour go to the hospital. if you miscarry naturally, make a dr. appointment so they can make sure its all out and your cervix is closed or you can get an infection. This too was my first BFP. I'm sorry. If you want to talk or have more questions I will try to answer them. Just send me a message *big hugs*

I am so sorry for this devastating loss ... and for more waiting. I have had two miscarriages, and they rocked my world. The first one, I wanted to do it naturally because I thought "natural was best," but it was incredibly painful physically (nearly unbearable cramps, clots the size of golf balls and more blood than I've ever seen come out of my body.) The physical aspect did not help the emotional aspect because it was so heartbreaking to essentially go through labor and delivery and not have a baby at the end of it.

When I began to miscarry a second time, I absolutely wanted a D&C, but unfortunately, I was living out of the country at the time and couldn't get back to the States before it started. Friends who have had a D&C have said it was painless physically and much less torturous emotionally.

I was in a really dark place emotionally, and I just couldn't shake the sadness. My advice is to allow yourself to fully grieve the loss of the promise of this child. Go to the core of your sadness and sit with it. Wallow in it. Experience it at its deepest level so that you can fully heal and move on. It may be intense, but I think you will heal more fully if you are gentle with yourself and do not rush yourself.

For me, within a week I was back at work functioning on the outside like a normal human, but I was still broken inside. After about six weeks, the clouds began to part and I began to realize I could feel joy again. It took many months to truly accept the loss and heal from it, but each day got the tiniest bit better until one day I realized I was truly okay.

Don't try to make sense of it or find meaning in it right now. It's okay to just feel sad, angry, bitter. That's natural and is all a part of the grieving cycle. In time, you can try to make this experience mean something more, but for now, it's okay to just hurt.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

I am SO sorry you have to go through this. I can only imagine how painful this is. Hang in there!

Big loving hugs!!! I don't have the words and most of them will annoy you anyway so I will share what I know...

I have had 4 m/c with the first one I had to get an D&C, it was my first surgery and it was so hard on my physically and mentally. It was painful and I bleed for several weeks after the surgery, plus I had to take pain killer that made me sick.

With the other 3 m/c's I was able to get rid of them naturally and it was so much easier on my both mentally and physically. As far as bleeding, it was quite heavy for the first couple of days them it slowed down, I bled for a total of 5 or 6 days. I was able to control the pain with over the counter pain meds, that don't make me sick!!

Emotionally you will feel every emotion there is from really pissed off to heart break! I, personally will never stop hurting from my losses, it gets easier and it soon you will begin to feel like yourself again, but for me I will always carry a small bit of grief from each loss. But it is a loss so take as long as you need to - to grieve your loss, you deserve that!! Again I am just so sorry!!!
Susan
xoxo

Ask for another ultrasound before you do a dnc. I had a friend that they told that and they were wrong. (((hugs)))

I am so sorry your are once again waiting and for something so painful after you finally got a BFP. IF is so cruel and I know exactly how you are feeling. After my 3rd IVF I got my first positive and was so excited. It turned out to be a chemical pregnancy (over by 5 weeks...beta never increased properly) so I didn't "feel" anything physically. WIth my 4th IVF I got another BFP and at about 6-7 weeks the RE saw a problem with the baby's growth on ultrasound. She had me keep coming back and at 8 weeks she determined I needed a D&C because the baby was almost two weeks behind and no heartbeat at that time. The D & C was performed at 9 weeks and I was so scared. The procedure is fairly quick (and you are knocked out) but of course the whole time you are emotional. My beta was up to 25,000 by that time and they warned me that the crash of the beta over the days/weeks after the D&C could be bad (and it was.....I think I cried for 5 hours straight one day, and plenty of times I would cry and not know why). Physically I was cramping for about two days and I bled heavily for about 5-6 and then lighter for at least another week to week and a half. I wish I could tell you it wasn't that bad.....but of course after WAITING for so long to get GOOD news, this is just traumatic! The "good" news......you WILL come out of it and start to feel better. You WILL move on and continue to pursue your dream of becoming a mom because you are STRONG and nothing will stop you from fulfilling that dream! I thought I was done with IVF after the two losses and especially after the D & C, but here I am about to start (end of September) my 5th IVF. I am not "happy" about doing so, but I just won't give up! I am wishing you the best and hoping that this time passes for you quickly and you can begin to plan for the future! If you need anything feel free to drop me a line! xoxo

I am so sorry for your loss hun!! Sending you big hugs and prayers!!

I am so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at home at 8 weeks. I agree with Tinyblessings. Miscarriage forces you to journey through grief. There will be dark days but joy will return.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been thru 3 miscarriages, one being a set of twins. The first, my twins, was natural and very painful but I did not want a d & c. The second was my sons twin and I felt nothing as my body and/or his absorbed the baby. The third was this past July. Again it was natural and very painful but again I did not want a d & c.

The pain is hard to describe. At times it was almost like contractions with large clots and heavy blood loss. I'd suggest if at all possible to stay home when it begins just so you can rest and have privacy.

The mental pain is different for everyone. My 1st took me several months to get thru before I was able to think straight. It was a really dark and hard time. Each time after that is hard but Ive become somewhat used to the pain so I just deal with it. It sucks.

No matter what know that it is NOT your fault. You did NOTHING wrong. Make sure to take the time you need to heal and talk about it when you are ready. Hugs to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been thru 3 miscarriages, one being a set of twins. The first, my twins, was natural and very painful but I did not want a d & c. The second was my sons twin and I felt nothing as my body and/or his absorbed the baby. The third was this past July. Again it was natural and very painful but again I did not want a d & c.

The pain is hard to describe. At times it was almost like contractions with large clots and heavy blood loss. I'd suggest if at all possible to stay home when it begins just so you can rest and have privacy.

The mental pain is different for everyone. My 1st took me several months to get thru before I was able to think straight. It was a really dark and hard time. Each time after that is hard but Ive become somewhat used to the pain so I just deal with it. It sucks.

No matter what know that it is NOT your fault. You did NOTHING wrong. Make sure to take the time you need to heal and talk about it when you are ready. Hugs to you.

I am so sorry for your loss!

I'm so sorry to hear about your mc. We found out at our first ultra sound last January that there was also no heart beat and that we would be forced to mc. Unfortunately I was not allowed a D&C because I've already had a few surgeries. It has been the hardest thing in my entire life to go through and I wish there were words to help you through this difficult time. My mc lasted for 7 months because it didn't want to pass on it's own and my doctor was too hesitant to go in and cause more scar tissue which in turn could hurt our chances of conceiving again. (it took 2 years for the first pregnancy). After schedule an appointment with our specialist and telling him that I can no longer deal wtih this, he decided to go in and do a manual procedure that is less invasive than a D&C. But that was after 7 months and a lot of anxiety/panic attacks. I've never had anxiety before in my whole life. A D&C is so much easier than having to live through the mc for a while. It gives you a little closure (as much as it can). My suggestion is to talk about it as much as you can with the people who understand. One of my biggest issues was people who kept telling me to be patient. I know they were coming from a good place and trying to help but mostly, it just made me feel worse. Especially when most or all of my friends are pregnant and weren't even trying. Just know that you are not alone and we are here to help you as much as we can. Ask any questions you have and let it all out. I wish I found this group earlier. It's full of amazing people who share stories and help remind you that you don't have to be alone.

I have had 2 now... first was an ectopic but the pain made the "miscarriage" part of it more bareable to deal with. I just wanted them to stop the pain. My second was a spontaneous pregnancy while waiting for IVF. We saw the heart beat 3 times and my husband was a blubbering mess at each u/s. At week 10 the baby died. I feel your pain. Miscarriage is way harder then IF.