Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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lina2008 02/12/2011

Hi all,
I haven't been on for a while... DH and I are trying to decide if we should try again. As some may remember after our last IVF in Jan 2010 I got pregnant, but we lost our angel in the first trimester. I tried two FETS not long after but while the first didn't take, the second didn't make it pass thawing... Since I now don't have any embies left, I need to go for a pick up cycle

I am so scared! I don't want to stay like this, but I also don't know if I could face up to a failed IVF or another miscarriage. At the moment we are thinking about going for the cycle in April (not a good time because that's when I miscarried). I need to call the clinic to get on their list and begin the process, including borrowing the money from my MIL (not a happy prospect)

I am so confused, please any thoughts would be helpful!

deleted_user 02/12/2011

Yes, keep trying. If you don't, you will always wonder "what if". Good luck and keep us posted :)

deleted_user 02/13/2011

It's so hard but you should definitely keep trying!!! You have to have faith and know that your life can change so quickly. I went through a stillbirth of twins after my first round of IVF and it about killed me. We kept trying and after a few more rounds we finally were able to have our miracle baby. Believe me, I NEVER thought I would be a mom. I still mourn the loss of our babies and I am a different person because of it but I'm so glad I didn't give up on my dream to have a baby.

You have so many positives working for you....the biggest one being that you know you are able to get pregnant through IVF. I would do whatever it takes to keep trying and definitely make sure you have support during the process. I saw a therapist after my loss & during the next IVF cycles and it helped me so much. You NEED support!!

Good luck. Please stay positive!!

EELC 02/13/2011

After having been through multiple miscarriages and multiple failed IVFs I understand how you feel. I too am trying again now, with my 3rd IVF try. But in general I've noticed that trying actually feels better than not trying, because it's actually "doing something."

Wishing you all the best! We are here for you!

deleted_user 02/13/2011

Its a long journey, one that you need to be prepared for, but the rewards are so worth it.
One thing that helped me was a guided imagery cd that I got from my doctor. It really helped to put me in a better frame of mind.
Im not sure if all REs have this type of program, but let me know if you'd like some info on it.

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