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My plan was for a Mothers' Day weekend full of relaxation, bliss, and lots of baby making. Instead, I tried to help someone in my family who was contemplating suicide. Even though I was home with my husband, every night we were so tired that TTC seemed physically impossible...so we didn't even try. The thing that bothers me the most is that this isn't the first time we have just been too tired to do it. Sometimes I wonder if we are just getting old. Or maybe I don't want it bad enough. Seriously, it's not like it takes that long--why does it sometimes seem impossible to make it happen?
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I know how you feel. However, I have noticed that the times when push through the tiredness and not in the moodness, it seems better!!!
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I've been there. Sometimes, especially after working around 12 hrs, it just seems like its too hard to think, much less move... We usually get around it though. I guess the temptation is just too much for my DH and he pushes through his tiredness (dont know if thats actually a word...) and does all the work, lol. You might try something relaxing together like a bath that also really puts you in the mood. And hey, if you still dont have the energy, at least you still got a nice bubbly bath out of it!
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I've been there Jaxie. Definitly try to not let fertile opportunities pass w/out trying, but you can't always. Do not be too hard on yourself. This weekend in particular was a crisis for you. It is totally understandable. We are human, not machines! :)
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Thank you for your replies. Nancy, you hit it right on. I do feel bad. I feel guilty that I let my chance to do it without medical help pass me by. My husband has a low sex drive, so if he's not in the mood (which is usually), I'm the one who has to make it happen. I'm so disappointed, and I can't blame a doctor or anything. I guess it probably wouldn't have worked anyway, but somehow that doesn't make me feel better.
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My husband also has a low sex drive, so I'm also the one who has to make it happen when needed. But sometimes, it seems like it's just not worth it. I'm tired physically and emotionally most of the time anymore, and there are times when I just don't seem to care. I want a baby more than anything, but...sometimes I'm just too tired. I know how you feel, and I too try not to let the "fertile" time go past, but I understand your feelings. Hang in there!!
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