I have never been told officially that we cannot have kids. That being said we have never done testing either. I have been with my husband for over 7 years and been off birth control for about the same time frame. I am going to be 29 soon and my husband is 31, age is not a huge thing for me other then I have medical conditions that put me at high risk already. We have yet to get pregnant. I say to myself its because we haven't hit the right day to conceive. My husband says that in this many years you would think at some point it should have happened. I am not sure if I am just in denial or just still hoping and thinking we need to actually try and try harder. In all honesty part of me feels he is right and feels we are not able to get pregnant. With all of my close friends having babies in 2015 it makes this even harder to deal with. I tell them and others lies about not wanting kids as it seems easier sometimes then the truth and to hear what I know is not pity but can come off that way.

We have never had any testing done, not sure my husband would be willing to do testing either. He is in a place where if it is meant to be that we will get pregnant. I am on the fence and part of me is more scared to find out the truth that there is something wrong verses living the way I do with hope it will happen. I do get a little disappointed when each month goes by that it doesn't happen. I am not sure if adoption is a choice for us or if it would be good to get some information on it and start the process because I know it takes a while. There are fertility issues in my family and many adopted children, but some of the stories out there scare me and not sure I could handle adoption either.

I guess basically I am looking for any advice on what made people decide to get testing, to do treatment and if any one did go the adoption route what brought you to that conclusion too? Any advice would be great as I am feeling a little lost and not sure what the next step should be.