Wow. :/

i sure understand..i have a friend who with both her baby girls got pregnant the first month...she picked the time of year and wanted girls and she got them....when i tell her it took me 3 almost 4 years she just looks at me with a blank look on her face!!.....ooh to be soo easy....

Star - you have no idea how much I can relate. Sorry if my story goes long, but I need to share myself, need to have others understand my pain and hope that sharing will help heal.

I have on LONGTIME friend who has 2 kids, hubby had vasectomy, then had it reversed. She FREAKED OUT when she wasn't pregnant after 3 months of trying for #3. Well she was actually pregnant, just didn't know it yet, so freak out was for nothing. But she had the nerve to tell me that after hubby and I tried for 6 months for #1, that we should be patient and it would come in God's timing. Then after hubby and were trying for 9 months, she announces she's "late" and she ended up having #4 just a week or two before hubby and had a D&C for our #1. Thing that pisses me off here is she's a couple years older than me, she should have raisins in her ovaries.

Then on Mon my longtime, even closer friend, the only friend that knew we were pregnant/miscarried, calls me up and tells me she's pregnant, also with #1. She was trying to hide how far along she was but I got it out of her. She could have very well conceived the same week we found out there was no heartbeat. She's basically 5 months along and is now just telling, and she had to tell me that it only took one try and that the prenatal bills really suck (she can go suck it cuz I have bills from a D&C), I could care less about her prenatal bills. And it gets better, she's due on MY husbands bday and the way she started this whole convo, was telling she has "news" to tell me, did I want to guess???? (I won't grace you with the expletives that I would like to come out of my mouth). And after she asks me if I want to guess (which I said no), she proceeds to tell me that since she knew what we had gone through and was scared it could happen to her, she chose not to tell anyone about it till she was past the halfway mark. So for months now I've been confiding in her and sharing my pain with her and she uses that to protect herself. And she has the nerve to call me her best friend. Now I know where the saying came from "with friends like this, who needs enemies".

I REALLY hope I didn't steal your thunder, that was not my intention, but I want you to know that there are many of us that understand. We understand it all too well.

Yep, I have a friend who got pregnant the month she stopped birth control! So not fair!

I remember being so naive. I remember taking a HPT when I missed a pill one day in college. I remember planning on getting preggo in November because I wanted an August baby. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA how stupid was I? I guess I always had it pounded into my head that women are so freakin fertile, and unprotected sex once would get you knocked up, so I was terrified. I recently met somebody who told me they were going to start trying soon, planned out when to stop the pill, and when they'd get preggo. I laughed and said yeah that's what I thought too. She asked how long i'd been trying. When I said over 2.5 years and now it costs over a grand to try each month...good luck! Her jaw dropped...

Oh I can soooooo relate to this!!! I have a MAJOR PET PEEVE with these types of women. I'm to the point where I have zero tolerance or patience left for anyone like that in my life. My favorite was a recent woman telling me she was going to time her baby's birth with astrology. The worst is how this makes me feel, I feel like an awful person for wishing women like that don't conceive that easily and they get to walk for even a minute in my shoes.

I can definitely relate to this! A girl I work with is was complaining about how she conceived her two kids. She proceeded to tell me and a few others that she cannever have unprotected sex with her husband because she was on birth control both times that conceived her two children and still became pregnant. She said had sex him maybe once or twice the month that her children were conceived without protection and low and behold she was pregnant. She was even talking about going to get her tubes tied so she would not have to worry about "things" like that. All I could do was walk away. If only she knew how hard it was for me to get pregnant and wish that I had beautiful tubes anymore.

I can relate to you too! I've watched my sister in law plan both her pregnancies. Both times she and my brother avoided telling me because she felt like it would hurt my feelings. The fact they felt like they had to keep it secret from me hurt even worse. They plan on trying again next year for a girl and you know what? I bet they'll get pregnant easily. Also I have another sister in law (my husband's sister) who decided to have an affair on her husband of ten years because she wanted another child. She has a 15 year old son from a previous marriage, but after ten years of struggling to get pregnant with her current husband decided to meet up with a guy online and then ends up pregnant by him three months later. She told my husband she planned on getting pregnant as soon as possible with this guy she met. It makes me so sick because her husband is such a nice man and never deserved that. It amazes me how some women just speak about their intentions of pregnancy and it comes true. We've been trying for a little over three years.

Ugh- Can completely relate.... It makes me so bitter but, whatever. Everyone struggles in some way, right? RIGHT? lol....

Nelly- I so agree! I still sometimes think- ok, if we start a cycle this month, the baby would be born right around Thanksgiving or Christmas, or whatever.... And then I stop myself. Like, really? Does it ever matter at this point!?

I gave up planning for a pregnancy years ago. At this point, I don't care when I get pregnant... as long as I get pregnant, carry to term and have a healthy baby to hold at the end, I'll be happy.

Thanks for all the responses.I felt good being reminded that I am not the only one who has these thoughts.
@Poly .. I understand the need to vent all too well :)

I have been trying for six years and sometimes it isnt easy dealing with these "perfectly planned pregnancies"" lol

I totally agree with all of everyone's posts. I am struggling right now to maintain a friendship with a coworker who had 4 children the "normal" way with her first husband, then had a successful IVF baby with her current husband....and is starting another IVF cycle for baby #6. Seriously??? WTF! How is fair that she has 5 children and I am having trouble conceiving ONE! It just really bothers me that she claims she's my friend but has not once been sympathetic to my IF issues and she is constantly talking about her kids, the baby, and TTC. I am beyond frustrated. And to top this all off....her IVF cycle and my FET cycle are very close. I really don't know how I'm going to handle it if she is blessed with baby #6 and I get a BFN. This is so tough!! I'm glad that I'm not the only one who feels this way. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't feel this way, but I can't help it. There seems to be babies everywhere!! My sister-in-law tried once and got pregnant and is due tomorrow, my stepsister had her baby a couple weeks ago, another coworker just had a baby boy. I'm going crazy.

Well I think for most women it is easy and they take it for granted. I suppose if I was one of those I would be ungrateful too. Maybe ungrateful is too harsh. Maybe just insemsitive to those of us who are IF. Its all around us. Everywhere we turn I get the feeling that society assumes all women can havw kids. Commercials target "mothers" being concernes for their children trying to pull on ur heart strings to get ya to buy a product etc etc. What about us? Ughhhh. Sorry Im goin in another direction. I guess Im tryin to say it hits ya from everywhere and people dont realize it. Theyre caught up in THEIR little insensitive worlds!

I know the feeling. I have a coworker who recently just got serious with her boyfriend. They decided she get off birth control since she had been on it for 10 years, That way when they are ready to start ttc the birth control will be out her system. Well, she stooped in December 2012 and found out she was pregnant February 2013. Mind you I've never been on birth control and been ttc for almost two years. I thought to myself why not me?! It's so frustrating!!!!