Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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MomHopes 12/13/2009

I just wrote a journal entry about how much I wanted my IUI to have worked, then I went to the bathroom and realized I started spotting. AF should be here any time now. I can't stop crying. Why is this so difficult? I'm so upset right now. Every month I hope it's implantation bleeding but it never is. I really feel like God doesn't want me to be a mother.

deleted_user 12/13/2009

I am so very sorry you are hurting so much right now. The pain with getting a BFN repeatedly is horrible and cruel. I really wish I had answers to your questions but I don't. I do believe you will be a Mother one day and until that day please know we are all here for you.

FNP 12/13/2009

Its just so hard. God will lead us to the way to be a mom. HE will. I am so so sorry. I know your pain so well for it is just so so unfair. Praying for you. I agree with Lioness YOU WILL BE A MOM! please know that. YOU WILL. (HUGS)

deleted_user 12/13/2009

I really feel bad for you and I know the pain because I also feel that God doesn't want me to have children

ardua 12/13/2009

I feel your pain, know that you aren't alone.

deleted_user 12/14/2009

I really feel for you, I know exactly how you feel. We've done 3 IUI's and they've ALL failed. I thought that with my last IUI, I had 2 HPT's the were all positive, and when I went for the blood work, it was a BFN!!! I usually know when I'm getting AF, I start to get swollen, and right now, I am, and AF is expected tomorrow, but who knows right now!

deleted_user 12/14/2009

I know it is difficult every month AF comes to visit. I went in for a Beta test today after my 5th IUI and they called me with a BFN. My thoughts are with you!

deleted_user 12/14/2009

Getting a BFN is one of the hardest things I have had to face. It is so defeating! Do something special for yourself and remember you have everyone here on your side.

deleted_user 12/15/2009

It is difficult because we don't know why things can't be the way we plan them. I feel your pain too, I thought this may have been my month, but sadly it is not. Every month I hope for implantation too. God does want you to be a mother and will give you the desires in yoer heart, on his plan. Instead of focusing on the "why" and why me, we should try to focus on all the good in our life and have TRUE faith that one day it will be our turn! I know this is easier said than done, but I am really trying to brainwash myself to always keep this in the front of my mind, because well it beats being negative & upset!

Good luck to you and everyone else, that soon you will be excited about a BFP!!! I think when my day comes I won't believe it!!!

deleted_user 12/15/2009

I'm sorry for the disappointment and remember the pain all to well. I truly believe God loves each and every one of us and these struggles are for a purpose. That said, it UTTERLY SUCKS each month that goes by and there never seems to be a rhyme or reason to why some are blessed and others continue to struggle.

deleted_user 12/15/2009

I've been there I am so sorry to hear that.

deleted_user 12/18/2009

AF is the most horrible sight in the world to me too. I am so sorry for you. Be positive, you can afford IUI and other treatments. One will take for you!

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