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Ok, so im not feeling that hot today!. Accually day three on clomid, I am feeling like I want to kill something..lol Now I mean could it be just the fact that i know these meds make people mean! Maybe I am creating it? I dont know, but you know when you are PMSing and right before you start you get grumpy and like a ball of anger in your stomach? MINE IS HANGIN OUT ready to unlease...LOL
So here is my question and my rant for the week!!! I am trying to break deeply, not focus on anything too hard, and hoping that this is just a day, and the next 2 days on clomid gets better!! Anyone have any tips?
Other then that I am taking clomid 100mg, to see if I ovulate. Our next step if I do ovulate is to use donor sperm, WHICH I AM "questioning" IF I NOW EVEN WANT TO TO!!!! I am so scared of the psychological effects on both my husband (who supports it 100%) and the DI child. With not knowing who your bio parent is, similar to adoption, you run into feelings of guilt, questions of why, who , feelings of not being good enough, or being torn between father that is here vs bio father... I just dont know. I dont know if me wanting to have a child soooooo bad should overlook the future feelings of someone that didnt ask to be born.
Now im in the well we could do a biopsy on matt and if they find any sperm we could do IVF with ICIS and take out about 25,000 in loans i cant afford! Can you place a value on kids/family/ your dreams? How do you recover if you dont end up having a kid. I just dont know. I dont know if I want to dive into something (donor) as a quick fix, when I am unsure of it, but I dont want to get to the point where I cant afford to have a child ever because I spent all my money on kids.....
Someone help me!! I just need advice outside of my family......
So here is my question and my rant for the week!!! I am trying to break deeply, not focus on anything too hard, and hoping that this is just a day, and the next 2 days on clomid gets better!! Anyone have any tips?
Other then that I am taking clomid 100mg, to see if I ovulate. Our next step if I do ovulate is to use donor sperm, WHICH I AM "questioning" IF I NOW EVEN WANT TO TO!!!! I am so scared of the psychological effects on both my husband (who supports it 100%) and the DI child. With not knowing who your bio parent is, similar to adoption, you run into feelings of guilt, questions of why, who , feelings of not being good enough, or being torn between father that is here vs bio father... I just dont know. I dont know if me wanting to have a child soooooo bad should overlook the future feelings of someone that didnt ask to be born.
Now im in the well we could do a biopsy on matt and if they find any sperm we could do IVF with ICIS and take out about 25,000 in loans i cant afford! Can you place a value on kids/family/ your dreams? How do you recover if you dont end up having a kid. I just dont know. I dont know if I want to dive into something (donor) as a quick fix, when I am unsure of it, but I dont want to get to the point where I cant afford to have a child ever because I spent all my money on kids.....
Someone help me!! I just need advice outside of my family......
I think all the questions you are asking are normal and fair. Yes, your child may question the fact that DH is not biological father. But, I firmly believe that if you are honest with you child then they will be fine. They may want to know some day, just to know and you can cross that bridge if it happens. I don't think it is a reason not to bring a child into the world though. Have you and DH gone through counseling yet for using a donor? I think most places require that you do and it would be a good place to bring up your thoughts and feelings.
There are a lot of tools out there these days on how to talk with children about this kind of stuff. You won't be doing it on your own.
DF and I will have to explain to our children someday why they were created in a lab and not in my non existing tubes. It may be weird for them at first but they will get through it. When there is enough love and openness in a family, you can get through most things.
After you work out some of what is built up, stop for a while and listen to your heart. Pray for guidance and you will find the right answer for you. I wish you the best of luck and please know we are all here for you. {{{HUG}}}