Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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kDeezy 03/09/2013

I have dreams that I'm pregnant all the time. Always have, ever since I was a teenager. And every single time I dream that I am pregnant, at the end of my dream I realize that I've been faking it all along and I wake up in tears.

Sometimes I dream that I already have a baby, but those dreams invariably end with me realizing that the baby is actually someone else's, or it's not really a baby but a doll or a cat, or I realize that I'm only dreaming and wake up with an ache in my chest so acute it's like I really DID have a baby in my arms and someone took it away from me.

I have had children in my dreams that I have felt such intense love for that I sob when I wake up, because I miss them so much.

I had one of those dreams last night. I dreamed that I was the mother to a newborn baby girl. I held her and I kissed her nd I loved her so much and I showed her off to some strangers on the street. One of them took her out of my arms and insisted that I was only the babysitter. She walked away and I swear, it was one of the most intense feelings of loss I've ever experienced in my life. And it was just a dream. She had blond hair and she was wearing a pink sleeper.

Anyone else?

polydoly13 03/10/2013

I started having pregnant dreams after our miscarriage. Just another cruel joke on this journey. I had one just a day or so ago. I think in my dream I was about the same stage we should be right now, it was devastating to wake up.

And yes my dreams are VERY real. Sometimes I have a hard time differentiating between dream and reality.

deleted_user 03/10/2013

Those dreams sound just awful...to suffer from IF in waking life and then to have such lucid dreams in sleep? Sounds like hell.

I don't usually dream about being pregnant, I did once recently. Like you said, it felt completely real. In the dream I got a BFP on a test and I was just incredulous (As I would be irl) and even in the dream I had a million thoughts (What if its wrong? is it a false positive? this cant be true, etc etc) Towards the end of the dream I had come to accept and I felt a real happiness and acceptance. It felt so real, I felt like "it finally happened, its all real!" and then I woke up. And felt true disappointment.

When I dream about babies, I usually dream that I am holding someone elses baby or watching someone elses baby, but I don't think I've ever had my own.

I have had bad dreams that felt so real I woke up and started crying. I have had 2 dreams that my mother died and I woke up and started crying even though I knew it was a dream, the feeling of sadness was just too great.

polydoly13 03/10/2013

My baby dreams ALWAYS happen a day or two before AF shows up - so then I get the disappointment of knowing it's a dream and then I get AF to slap me in the face.

I know why it's happening, when I get something on my mind, I then tend to dream about it. But for crying out loud, can I not get a break, even when I sleep????

Nellysgirl 03/11/2013

My baby dreams are always super weird. Like I dreamt once that I was pregnant and in the emergency room cuz I was ready to deliver, but nobody would put me in a room. Then I just popped it out, and sat the baby up on the counter where it rolled off. I ended up picking it up and dusting it off, looking around to make sure nobody saw. It was like the baby was just an object, and not my baby. When they finally put me in a room was when I woke up. But I have dreams that are so lucid, that I swear they are telling me something in real life. I've had numerous dreams where I was shot, and as goofy as it sounds, it seemed so real in the dream, that i swear i know what it feels like to be shot! Not that i'm willing to find out of it's right or not...

whimsicalfool 03/11/2013

I never used to have those dreams, but last week I had a dream that I was telling people about my BFP and how far along I was, and people kept just sort of smiling sadly at me and saying things like "Oh, that's nice" Then, finally, my SIL said "Somebody has to tell you. You aren't really pregnant. You got a BFN on that phone call. It's just your brain couldn't handle it, so you've been walking around as if you were pregnant all this time. But it's gone on too long. You're not! You're just suffering from severe PTSD." I woke up weeping. It took DH a long time to console me.

polydoly13 03/11/2013

Why can't the sexy dreams with Channing Tatum rubbing my feet or feeding me chocolate or something, be as vivid as the baby dreams?? Why can't I wake up all pleasured and sasified (yes I said sasified), instead of in tears and miserable?

Nellysgirl 03/12/2013

polydoly when you find a way to start getting those channing tatum dreams, please share so the rest of us can indulge !! :-) Maybe watch some Magic Mike before bed??

polydoly13 03/12/2013

Nelly - I think that would work perfectly cuz last night I fell asleep watching The Mentalist and then I had sex with Simon Baker in my dream. He's not bad, but he's no Channing Tatum.

lina2008 03/13/2013

I have dreams like this all the time... They started after my second miscarriage and they are so heartbreaking. Some nights I wake up crying because I realise it was all in my head and it may never come true...

It is so hard because sometimes I just wish I didn't have to wake up

Nedico 03/14/2013

Funny, last night I dreamt that I went to see the clinic and they did an ultrasound to check things before I start my IVF and they told me that my urethra was too long and my left leg was too weak to ever give birth naturally! All my hopes are pinned on IVF (as my tubes are tied) and ive been waiting to start IVF for a year and trying for 3 and a half years before that and to be told I would never beable to even have IVF, even in a dream was HORRIBLE!!! I really felt it, and woke with that ache in my chest you were talking about.
Have quite a lot of these but every rarely are they a happy ending!

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