Hi, I just joined this support group 2 minutes ago literally and came across your post. I am sitting here in tears writing this because I am partially ashamed that I even had to search the internet for a "support group." This is the 3rd year I'm also ending with no pregnancy or child. My husband and I have been trying for over 3 years. I started this year so excited because I just knew in my heart that 2016 was going to be our year. I honestly can't believe i'm in this situation. I feel like i've done everything right - great husband, fantastic career, etc. All of that said, I am going to start getting assistance with pregnancy in January. I can't go another year without trying out some options.

As disappointed, hurt and upset I am, I do still believe that I will get pregnant. Don't give up. I'm not sure how old you are, but i'm 37 and I still have hope. Thank you so much for sharing your frustrations. I desperately need to believe that i am not the only going through this....

I know exactly how you ladies feel. I actually went to see the specialist this morning and received news that will hault our plans to start treatment. This is the reason I joined this site because I honestly need the strength and support to go thru this process again. I am 34 years old, on my second marriage, trying to conceive after being poked and probed for the past 10 years. I've undergone HSG's, IUI's and 2 rounds of IVF (one fresh and one frozen) and a horrible fertility specialist who kept missing very important diagnosis. Did I mention I was born without an ovary and have elevated prolactin levels? After years of trying with my first husband, and many heartbreaks, I decided that this is a new life and new opportunities to finally get that family I dreamt of. Sadly, things have not gone as planned and my new specialist found today that I have a cyst in my only ovary and I may have endometriosis! I left the dr's office today bawling my eyes out and feeling defeated. I get angry and sad, and I feel just like you when I see everyone around me carrying a little angel in their womb, often asking myself if I would ever know what that felt like.

I was hoping that before 2017 was over, I would be pregnant but after today, I am kind of in a funk. While I tell myself not to give up, I honestly have a long battle ahead just like you ladies and I know I will be angry, frustrated, and have my moments of weakness. We just have to remember that while we want to be moms, we are also humans and we have to love ourselves too. We have to take breaks to regroup. I will be honest, I am very tough on myself but I didn't ask for this. We didn't ask for this. God has a plan for us. He is testing us and if we can make it thru this, imagine how much more we can withstand just to have the joy and the blessing of having a little angel in our arms.

Please do not feel alone. I am here with you ladies.

Warmest and biggest hugs for the both of you. Xoxoxox

I totally understand the thought of "if it hasn't happened yet, maybe it won't, so should I just stop wasting my time and energy, (and money) and just move on"? If it was meant to happen wouldn't it have already? How many appointments and tests and everything can people go thru to have a baby? I 'm 34, have high prolactin levels,(prolactima) have PCOS, and probably have unexplained infertility as well, and i am surrounded by people who have kids. In fact just today, i got invited to a baby shower for someone who had IVF, so while i'm very happy for her, deep down, i'm thinking - do i really want to go? I'm so glad that it worked for her, but what about me? I know that is very selfish, but i'm sure we can all relate to the comments, the pity looks (even when they so are busted!) and the just not wanting to be around people who have had success while we're still trying.

I'm sending you all strength (and i'm sorry that i made this post about me.) I hope that each of you have your luck and find the peace that you need in whatever the future holds.

The end of a year is such a milestone. We're heading into our 4th year of trying and it's hard not to feel so let down by another year of no success. I remember last year thinking that in 12 months, I was certain we would have made progress in our journey. We started our IVF treatment but due to overstimulation, I wasn't able to have an implantation. We will be having it in the new year but am feeling really plagued with negative thoughts and feelings and anger about how hard this whole journey has been. I really want to be able to shake it off but in the last few weeks it's been harder than usual.

I really struggled with the decision for IVF. We've decided to have one round only. I wanted to be able to look back on our journey and know I tried all the options I had available to me, but it took me a long time to come to that decision. It is a big commitment physically but for me, even bigger emotionally but I really hope it will be worth it and this time next year I will be a mother.

Thank you for sharing your feelings ... it was so nice to read someone else feeling as I do.

Hello everyone. I am new to the group but wanted to connect with people that were going through the same thing that I have been going through. I was born with only one ovary and do not have a Fallopian tube on one side. So there is no way I can get pregnant naturally. This will be the start of our third year going through infertility...our second year in ivf. I'm at the point that if I do not get pregnant this year on ivf then I want to start fostering and looking into adopting. I'm only 29 and have felt like I was dealt a bad hand. I know that God has a plan for me but so confused as to what that is. I feel I have been through hell and back and yet I can't get ever get ahead. I need positive encouragement to keep pushing forward.

Hey ladies, thanks for your comments and I am sorry you are all going through this. I only joined this group recently because my best friend who has been supporting me through this recently told me she has accidentally fallen pregnant.
We are both 30 and she has always told me not to worry if it takes me a while to fall pregnant because she didn't plan on having kids until she was about 35 and had established her career. She has now told me she hopes I fall pregnant soon so our children can be friends.
Whilst I am happy for her, it has also depressed me and made me feel like I have no one to talk to about this. I also can't help feeling like a failure, to think she found something so easy that I have been struggling with for years.


Anyway, I needed to get that out before I had a major breakdown.

Hi there, just wanted to give some support and tell you that you aren't alone. It really is a rollercoaster, some days I appreciate my simple life and other days it's literally tearing my heart apart. I try to tell myself there is a reason for everything and that it will all make sense but then all these people keep falling pregnant so easily and before us. I literally don't know anyone personally who has tried as long as me and I feel all my friends are tired of hearing from me. I am sitting at home from work today crying because my best friend told me she is pregnant and I got my period all at once. I don't know why this is happening to us

Sending virtual hugs to all of you as I tear up at work. 3+ years on my journey and it is a cruel rollercoaster ride indeed. I ended 2016 with a lot of positive energy, working on accepting myself where I'm at and that life has a sacred pace, trying to be grateful for what I have. A few months later I feel like all that has gone to shit and I'm back to the same negative, sad feelings and inability to interact with my friends with kids or pregnant (which is all of them). Distancing myself from my friends feels icky, but so does knowing about their lovely lives with their babies, so I'm just left somewhere in the middle feeling like a bad person for not being happy for them... please message me if you want to vent/commiserate!

I'm sending hugs and love to all of you. I cannot read these stories without crying, each one, including my own, is so heartbreaking. I also wanted to say, because this appears to be a common thread for all of us, that we must figure out how to forgive ourselves. Don't want to go to your friend's baby shower? Don't go. Treat yourself to a spa day instead. Can't handle your pregnant friends or your friends with little kids? Don't beat yourself up about it. You are allowed to feel angry and mad and sad and envious and all of it. Try not to also feel bad on top of all of that other negative crap you already feel. I have been trying to fully embrace this mentality and it is the only thing that has helped (a little). All the ugly, negative emotions are still there, but I am refusing to let myself ALSO feel bad about feeling bad. And I'm not doing it anymore with the baby showers and sh*t. Don't care if that makes me a terrible friend, but I need to take care of me right now, and that means putting my needs and my feelings first. Sending lots of love and strength to you all. XO