Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
So I was exposed to a lot of "baby stuff" this past week including the weekend. A former church member is expecting twins and I heard talk about the baby shower for her this coming weekend. My second cousin had her third baby and heard about how he had an emergency because of pneamonia (spelling?). I do feel sad for my cousin but I don't feel completely sad...does that make sense? I find it difficult to have empathy for some people now. I really find it difficult to feel bad for a pregnant woman who feels miserable. I know this sounds terrible but normal at the same time.
I also think that my main issue is implantation issues and not sure how to deal with that. I'm basing this on my husband's numbers and mobility and my own tests I've had. I've started taking red raspberry leaf tea capsules and Vitex as well as Selenium to help with endo and a Vitamin B complex. I'm hoping a combination of vitamins, working out and cleaning up my eating will help us.
On another note, I do think that IUI and IVF should be covered or at least partially covered by insurance. Infertility is considered a disease by CDC's standard, so why not have it covered. Insurance will cover many other items that are affected by lifestyle choices. I could go more into this but need to step off the soap box.
I'm sorry you have this going on... What did your tests show that makes you feel this? I'm doing the same trying to eat healthy and take supplements and hopefully be in a better spot. My main fear is my egg quality is off since I have unexplained infertility. I hope you get some answers...truly just so confusing with all this information, and sometimes not enough information.
And honestly you could vent to me all day about insurance. It makes me so mad. I feel like it just plays such a huge part in the stress... just ugh. I've literally contacted my insurance four times asking them if they're sure IVF wouldnt be covered lol...still no.
Anyway, just know you're not alone. Deep breath and keep fighting for what you deserve :)
Though at that point we hadn't had proper testing yet and we didn't know why it wasn't happening for us. I'm on some points a known factor but was told even with the hurtles I should have at least gotten pregnant at least once which I have not. It's the opposite of reassuring to be told they don't know why. Heck, when I was told that I felt like they just jettisoned me right back into the three year limbo I had been in.
While I take a lot of joy in the multiple children around me I've found myself becoming occasionally resentful when the mothers of said children complain, especially with a certain parent I know who borderline neglects their children (constantly pushing them on grandparents, aunts, uncles, whoever) and I've had to stop myself from going off a few times.
After doing a lot of soul-searching (as well as a bunch of research) I've come to realize feeling this way is completely and utterly normal. You're allowed to have those emotions and if you're feeling stressed don't feel shy about withdrawing and finding a proper vent. And by all means don't be afraid to simply turn down a baby shower invitation and just send a gift. You have to take care of you first and that most definitely includes your emotional health.
As for the insurance I'm pretty sure I've gone on ten point rants about it on multiple occasions myself. We're lucky that we're covered for most of our current treatment and it's only in the triple digits per try rather than the quadruple like some friends of mine I know. After I finish fertility treatments and regain some emotional stamina I'm probably going to look into ways to advocate fertility be covered in insurance.
If IVF becomes the only way there are multiple grants and scholarships you can apply for and there's financing options available so don't give up hope. You can do this thing and you have a bunch of people in your box cheering for you!