I started out he same way you did. After a battery of testing they found that I had Endo stage 1, cyst in my ovary and polyps in my uterus. Had surgery to remove them and then went on to medications with timed intercourse. Then IUIs with medication. More surgery. Then IVF. I had my daughter in 2015 after our first IVF round. I went back to try again and my AMH was almost non existent. They basically prepared me to expect to barely produce any eggs. And they said my egg quality is questionable based on having had a miscarriage, being in my mid 30s and otherwise unexplained infertility. I did high level (expensive) fertility meds and yielded 22 eggs! 13 made it to day 5 and 9 tested PGS normal. So there is hope for you!! I am pregnant with my son now and still have more frozen healthy embryos to go back to. Hang in there and give it a try!!!

It is absolutely the worst when people say you should just relax and it will happen, or stop trying and it will happen. Sure, maybe for some people that's the case, but it's certainly not for everyone! Plenty of us cannot and will not be able to get pregnant and have families if we don't focus on it and try. And lots of people just don't understand that.

I haven't done IVF, but your fears all seem very natural. Sending positive thoughts you way for getting some good eggs that create nice, healthy embryos! It has worked for a lot of women who otherwise didn't seem to have any hope, so why not for you, too?!

Hopefully this group can help you find the comfort and support you will need. Sending all the best!

I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure (barely any eggs left) and since TTC for almost 2 years now with no luck. While the entire process is extremely stressful, having the chance to find a doctor who was willing to work with me and to try different stimulating medications has given me the possibility of at least a chance at IVF. I keep preparing myself that it may not go the way that I hope, but being able to at least try is very important to me.

The financial strain is really quite a burden. I've done 4 unsuccessful rounds of IUI with IV meds, 3 failed attempts at responding to IV meds, and a polyp removal. I don't think that most people really grasp the emotional, mental, relational, and financial strain that infertility puts on us. People try to say things that they think will help, most of which is unrealistic, but their intentions are good. I've really struggled with the whole "trying to relax" part, as I feel so desperate, given that my eggs are barely existent. My husband is very supportive. I've also started individual counseling and have been taking the lowest dose of Celexa to help with how I'm feeling.

You are the one, along with your husband, that have to decide what makes the most sense for you, physically, emotionally, and financially. I really wish you so much luck as you near the start of your IVF meds. While it's so heartbreaking to have to think about the possibility of having a child by other untraditional methods, thankfully, it is possible. Personally, if I am not ever successful with IVF, I've been told that I am a good candidate for using an egg donor. If that ends up being the case with me, I know that it will definitely be quite a blow to my heart. But, the alternative of not ever having a child with my husband is so sad.

I just joined this group, as well. I'm hoping that you and I both find some support here. Good luck with your upcoming cycle!

Thanks you ladies for the encouragement and support. I wish you all luck and happiness, I will keep you posted, and please keep me posted on you and what you are going through.

I had my baseline appointment done today and everything went okay, so I start my meds Friday. Fingers and toes crossed. I guess nobody like needles, but I may pass out if I look at it:{

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Not sure where you're located but there are a few clinics in the US that offer a guarantee of a live birth or your money back. It's still a financial strain though. Praying that you respond well to the meds and that this will be it for you.

Katmead,

Welcome to the club! I wish you the best and hope you have an easy cycle! Its a rough journey and you won't know how you'll feel from one day to the next. I am excited and happy you're trying IVF though. With IVF, although invasive, they can really get in there and cause some good stuff to happen. I still wish the technology was more accurate and guaranteed.

I have the same fears as you. But my biggest fear would have been regret 10 years from now and not doing IVF. I always would've asked, "what if?" I have not been successful yet, but if I can't get pregnant with my own eggs, I will seek a donor. Not sure how I feel about that yet, but at least there's a plan B. And having a plan A, B, C keeps me sane because I am a planner! I wish you the best of luck, Let me know if you ever need to vent! xoxo

I know I left a comment on this already, but have you thought about embryo adoption? The concept is mind blowing because you will birth your adopted child. This option is cheaper than IVF and less invasive. The child will not have your DNA/genes, but you will have control over the pregnancy. This will be an option for us if IVF is not successful.

Just an update, I started my IVF Cycle on January 12th and things are going well. I have 11 follicles on my right and 5 on my left. Long way to go but I celebrate each successful step. So who knows what the future will bring but I am happy so far so good.

On my first ultrasound Monday, when I saw the follicles, I cried and cried and cried....

Not sure if it;s normal during an IVF cycle, but I am EXHAUSTED all the time. Last night was the first night I was able to sleep, prior, I was up all night tossing and turning and overthinking everything, so hopefully I can continue to sleep through the night.

Will keep you updated, keep sharing your experiences with me, and thanks for the helpful comments so far!

I wish you the best of luck. IVF is a financial hardship, but my husband and I decided it was worth the try. Unfortunately for us we are on our 4th IVF cycle, and I don't think I can take the emotional strain anymore if this one doesn't work. Our last cycle and this cycle are both with adopted embryos, and there was no reason they could find that it didn't work last time, which is why we are trying again. I'm currently in the waiting stage...transfer was this past weekend and my blood test is next week. This is stressful, and yes, I find it hard to sleep because I just think about this and worry and stress (which I know is not good). Trying to find the hope and positivity is rough, but it sounds like things are going well for you at the moment. Good luck, and keep updating us!