Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hi Everyone,
I’m feeling lost after my 3rd loss so I wanted to get on here and work out my feelings a bit.
A little bit about our journey...
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 4 years now. We did 2 rounds of letrozole and got pregnant twice during this time. One pregnancy was an early loss at week 5 while the other was a much more painful week 10 loss which involved a D & C. (I still look at my 8 week ultrasound pictures from time to time.)
We decided to go to a specialist and we set a game plan. I had to wait for my cycle before we could start everything but my period just wouldn’t come. I didn’t even think to test because I figured there was no chance. Come to find out I was pregnant again. We were shocked and happy since this pregnancy was without any intervention but, like the others, it was not viable and I started to miscarry at the 7 week mark. I’m currently at the end of this painful process and I am feeling so defeated. Really trying to stay positive but it’s so hard. 2 miscarriages felt like possible “bad luck” (as my previous doctor so coldly put it) but 3 is now an “issue”. It’s recurrent loss. And it’s what I think about all day lately.
My body is failing me. As a woman I feel that I’ve failed at the one thing my body should be able to do. And I’ve let my husband down as well. This is such a difficult thing to wrap my mind around.
This rant is my irrational, emotional brain speaking though. I need to keep that in check and just stay positive because through all of this I still have a lot to be thankful for. I have a supportive and loving husband and just the mere fact that I am able to conceive at all is something to be thankful for.
I am so hoping that this next stage, with our new doctor, will be a success. Just have to stay positive.
Thank you all for reading my story. It has been a tremendous help just to get this out.
To all you ladies out there going through this struggle - I’m here. I really am. Message me. Let’s talk. I’m tired of being so alone through all of this.
A huge hug to all of you.
My husband and I have been trying for over four and a half years now. I've been treated with lots of hormones and six IUI's Not a single pregnancy to show for it. They can't even tell us why really. There's some female factors but nothing so major that I shouldn't be getting pregnant at all. It's a difficult feeling to process.
I've gone through turns of wondering what I'm doing wrong and feeling completely and utterly betrayed by my own anatomy. It's isolating. It's also an extremely normal thing to feel with infertility.
The fact is, I've done nothing wrong and neither have you. Sometimes biologically we either just have bad luck or draw the short of the stick. Sometimes both. It's difficult to quantify that feeling of helplessness and loss that comes with unexplained fertility issues.
You're definitely not alone in this struggle. Do what you have to do to get yourself through this and know that taking care of yourself is okay. Just take it one day at a time and know that everything will be okay.
I'm not on here that often but feel free to send me a message. I'll get to it when I can. Good luck and lots of hugs.