Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hello everyone out there, I am new to all this. Joining an online group is a huge step for me so here I am! Tomorrow marks 3 years my husband I have been married and still no pregnancy. I like many others, have had to quit looking at Facebook because it became too much for me. I have even alienated myself from many people close to me because they were having babies and I was not. I could go on and on, but I don't want to go crazy on my first post.
My current mood is sad and hopeless and I have been crying. My biggest fear my entire life has ALWAYS been never experiencing motherhood and as another year goes by, I feel sad, hopeless, and even numb inside. While all babies are a blessing, it still hurts to see my sister/ cousins/ friends getting pregnant when they were not even trying time after time and then an alcoholic friend getting pregnant 3 times, and the list goes on and on. My sister in law is due to have a baby next month and here I am with everyone asking me when is it my turn or do I even want kids. I feel defective, my body has one job and it just isn't doing it, and every month comes my period reminding me "sorry no baby".
I am a Christian, but it is very hard sometimes to keep the faith. I work in the Social Service field dealing with women in prostitution, addicted to drugs, etc who are able to have children and I hurt for those children and I get angry with God that how come them and not me? I never even lived with my husband until we were married!
I know I am rattling off, but I can't help it. I need some release. My sister right above me and I have grown up our whole lives close, but that changed a year ago when she was pregnant with her 4th child. She told me she knew exactly how I am as feeling about not getting pregnant. That statement has forever changed our relationship. How could she possibly know how I was feeling? Every person handles things differently, but how dare she try to tell me she understood. She has no idea how I feel! Shame on her for thinking she does. The only people who could know anything about how I am feeling are the people in this group. Anyways, thank you for reading and thank you for this group.
Everything you are feeling is normal when you are going through this, it wasnt until joining this group that I realized how not alone I was. For some reason, its taboo to talk about. The "what if" we cant get pregnant. Nobody ever talked about that when I was growing up. It was like you just assume its going to happen with no problems. But then, it doesnt. Its a huge emotional rollercoaster, and you really dont understand it unless you are on the ride. I always get stuck on the people who get pregnant when they arent even really trying, or trying very long... what a blessing that is and they dont even know it. I had a good friend of mine do the same thing your sister did... "i know exactly how you feel" well, no you dont... you got pregnant a month after stopping birthcontrol... so you have no idea. infuriating. Now I dont talk to her about what we're going through because she truly does not understand.
Welcome to the group, I hope you find peace here.. I know its helped me. Message me anytime.
FB is the worst when trying to get pregnant. I found it so painful while I was going through treatment I deleted my account as well.
Have you been to an infertility specialist? I found what helped me was to have a plan to move forward in terms of trying to get pregnant.
Let me know if you have any questions. You will find support here.
I am new to dailystrength.org as well. I just read your post and like many other women that have already responded, I feel the very same way. I have also had to delete Facebook, I have people telling me "just go have sex with your husband" like it's so easy. 90% of people have no comprehension of infertility and the toll it takes on your emotions.
I am a registered nurse and there are 11 people that I know and work with who are pregnant. It seems like every week there is another birth announcment from someone who has only been trying to conceive for 1 month. Most of the time I feel sorry for myself and try to avoid those people at all costs.
I feel your pain and anguish and I wish you the very best of luck in your journey.
I am new to this- I have never reached out until now. I am in year 13. We have had 2 failed IUIs 6 years of naturopath / acupuncture medicine, 4 years of "taking a break" and letting God do His thing through us and the last 2&1/2 with 6 failed IVfs and 2 failed donor embryo failed transfers. I have had every test know to medicine aside from taking my uterus completely out and inspecting it :( No immunoligical issues, no fallopian issues, no PCOS, no endometriosis, no ovulation or cycle issues, lining is always perfect 12 to 16. Ijust don't understand. My doctor today said he will let me go one more time but the donor parents trusted him with a good home and he feels a responsibility to give them to a viable subject that will be able to give birth to these little ones, maybe I should consider adoption. I am heart broken!!!! I don't even know how to feel- completely like a failure and incompetent as a woman. There is no one to talk to. My husband is very disappointed but reality is that he has a 26 and 22 year old. He desperately wants little ones with me but the reality is- he already has 2.... I am just devastated. I eat organic, stay relatively fit, 5"9 and 160 I run my own business for 17 years so I can care for and love and nuture the little one- I even set up the baby room when we went to donor embryos in expectation.... Sorry for the ramble- at a loss- thank you! Many blessings to all of you and I send lots of hugs and love to you!
JEM10