I get down about this. I always had a "life plan" in my head, married at a certain age and I was supposed to have two kids by now. Instead I'm still waiting. Waiting, waiting, waiting! I want to catch up to all my friends who are now on their second or third baby and who haven't spent thousands on IF treatments and can therefore afford to remodel or purchase country homes. Your not alone in those feelings

I can relate to feeling left behind. My brother and sister are married with multiple kids. And one of them is old enough to be going to college! And me with no children. I feel like I'm growing apart from everyone because there life and conversations revolve around children and I don't have any. We can barley relate to each other anymore.

I think about this a lot. I wish I wouldn't. It would be so NICE to just be able to MOVE ON. We are stuck. We truly are. We can't go back to how it was BEFORE all the baby session, and despite our best efforts, we can't move forward. So sorry you are feeling this way. It sucks, and we hear ya.

I feel the same way. I go from being left behind with my pregnant friends to left behind as their children age etc. it's depressing how we grow apart from friends because we have nothing in common anymore. Sucks :(

I'm so with you. I have so many friends who have kids or are having kids right now I can't stand it. If we hadn't spent so much on IVF (we are currently in our first cycle), we could have put a down payment on another house. I feel like we'll never get to do that now either. And if this IVF doesn't work, I have no idea how we'd ever have enough to tray again.

Sorry to be so negative, but I'm feeling exactly the same way. You are truly not alone.

Gotta say, I feel left behind every day.....unfortunately I feel this way with my real time friends and some of my IF friends as well. Except for a few, I've been TTC longer then just about anyone I started my journey with. The worst, I think, is when they're on to siblings and I'm still hoping for my first. What I keep telling myself is that my future child is just really really high-maintanence and is going to need a lot of attention and therefore is waiting to make their grand entrance when they're the only ones in the spot-light! Actually, the only babies mine are willing to share the spot-light with are Alana's, lol. And there is also a good chance they're holding out for some fabulous hand-me-downs from Christina :-)

Thanks for your words of understanding, DS sisters. It means so much to not feel so isolated and to know that others know these feelings (sadly, all too well). Hugs to you all.

I am late to this party, but I totally agree! Our friends are going on vacations, buying new cars, and boats and other things someone really does not have to have, but they have the time and money to have those things. Even the ones with multiple kids! I still drive the same car I bougth my freshman year of college, it rattles as I go down the road, it has not paint on the roof from hail damage I could not afford to fix and I have not had AC for 3 years (and I live in the South!). But we can not plan vacations or buy new cars because our lives revolve around treatments and having enough money just in case this one does not work. It really sucks when you life plan is not what you expected it to be at all!

Yep, I definitely know you mean. And I feel bad for feeling bad about it, but I can't help that I get down and feel like I'm the ONLY one in my circle who's not doing the picket-fence-with-kids thing.

It also brings me down that so many of my friends seem to take their blessings for granted...surely I wouldn't make the same mistake if I'd been lucky enough to have those cute kids and that awesome house in the 'burbs. Right?

I wish I had the words to make you feel better, but I don't. But I promise you're not alone!

I know exactly how you and all the other ladies on here feel, it's so depressing.... About 19months ago I became a Great Aunt, and I am only 28, seriously I am feeling extremely left behind :(( My older sister who never even wanted kids has been preggo 6 times and she only gave birth to 2 of them. Me who has wanted kids my whole life, I can't even have 1.......... At the rate things are going and if history repeats itself I am going to be a Great Great Aunt :(( I don't have much to say to make you feel better, but just know your not alone....

I feel ya there! I got the graduated part done. I got the married. I got the job. Now we're stuck in our parent's basement, with no house, no kiddos, and no social group either. And of course it's exciting....for them! It's depressing and exhausting for us. You're at least a step ahead of some, you have a starter home! :D It's not a lot, but it is something!
When I get super down, I cry and write a big long blog about how life sucks. Then the next day I make myself look around and see the things that I DO have. I have a loving husband. I have a warm home (regardless of who owns it!) I have an awesome family. I have wonderful support here. I have my sense of smell-I love honeysuckle. I have my eyesight, hearing, physical abilities, etc. It's hard to look at the positives when the negatives are RIGHT THERE. But there really are MORE and abundant blessings than turmoils, they're just harder to see!!!

Totally in the same boat. I feel crazy- sometimes I'm so depressed, but then I feel bad because I know I should be more appreciative of my life. This awful, longggg challenge has really taught me a lot about myself and my husband, and we are both stronger because of it, BUT I'm done!. I'm ready to move on, and I feel like I'm stuck waiting for a train, but I have no idea if it will ever come. That is the hard part. I can suck it up if I know ONE DAY, but none of us know that.

Yesterday, I got a text from yet another friend who had yet another baby yesterday (who wasn't even trying to get pregnant 1 year ago!) and it threw me over the edge. I just feel further away from my dreams, and my friends, with each day. I cry lots of tears pretty much each month. It's like a cleanse!

You ladies have said everything I feel. It's sucks! I have been here since 2008 and watch so many finally have their babies. Real life friends too! It's so hard