Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hi everyone. Just having a very rough weekend and instead of holding it all in just wanted to write it out and hopefully I'll feel somewhat better. My husband had to break the news to me last night that a very close family friend couple is expecting. This is one of many people, but I'm beside myself. He said my father-in-law told him and that he just looked like his heart hurt for us and I hate that. I have a lot of wedding events coming up that I know I'll be surrounded by everyone who has recently been able to share their news and the anxiety and sadness is just taking over. I had such a nice night on Friday with a friend and I actually felt happy and like "ok, I am ok". But then I hear news like this and I break again. I am happy for them. I just literally do not know how to act anymore. It's just all so strange and everytime i feel I have a somewhat of a good grip on this and like I can move forward without being completely depressed, something else pops up. I also then start listing out all the people who I know are probably trying / will be pregnant soon, too and I feel a little crazy. I know you guys get it.
Our plan is also to start the process of IVF in a couple months. I am happy we have a plan, but with unexplained inferitility, something in my mind is telling me something is wrong with my egg quality. I know i can't control that until we get there and I get maybe I'm being irrational. I think I just know there's a piece to this puzzle I'm not provided yet and IVF is not covered at all for us. My family still says things to me like "it will happen when you're not expecting" and I don't get why they think that is helpful.
Anyway I just needed to get this out. I am trying to do some happy thinking - reminding myself what is good in my life. Hope you guys are all hanging in and feel free to vent out here, too. I will listen. XO
I truly believe there is a purpose to all this grief, and that one day it will all make sense. I pray for all of us that we can try to hang in there until that day comes.
@Ch32 I get it. It's a never ending cycle of finding out news. I hope things change for you soon and that some answers come for you guys. So difficult not knowing and trying to pick yourself up over and over. Thinking of you.
@Confused77 thank you so much. My heart goes out to you. I commend you so much for what you have been through. And for you too I will keep you in my thoughts that you get your light at the end of this dark and crazy tunnel. I have a sister, too, and I know within this year her and her husband will try for their second... so many emotions because you are happy but it's like your sadness for yourself is so much more overpowering. If you ever want to share your story please feel free. I'd be a sounding board if nothing else. Truly hoping for you.
@PrayerfullyWaiting exactly! The timing is sometimes incredible and not lost on us when it does happen. And those lovely hormones, always adding a bit more fun to the process. Thank you for saying that about purpose. I need to hear those things to remind myself what it is all for. Thinking and praying for you.
Again, thank you guys. Gave me strength to tackle this day. One day at a time always. XX
No one understands unless they have been in this situation. I love the whole "relax and it will happen." I think people will say this because they honestly don't know what to say. All I want is for someone to hug me and say that they are praying for me and they cannot imagine what I'm going through. It's pretty simple but so many seem to miss lol.
It's frustrating when you don't know the whole story to your infertility and still searching for answers. Don't give up and don't lose hope. You will find answers soon.
Good luck with the IVF process! I will be starting the process in a few months. Hugs!
That is hardest thing to deal with is not understanding why it hasn't happened for people like us that are good people and will bring a child into a good and stable household. Checking Facebook is always so difficult because it seems like left and right there is a new baby announcement and it has just started to make us both bitter about it. You want to be happy for them but just find it hard to be. Even watching tv or movies has become difficult. Every where you look there are commercials showing new babies and how happy the parents are, or a character on a show we like gets pregnant. We try to stay positive but when I have to see what my wife goes through with the tests and medications she takes, it makes it so much harder that we don't feel like we are able to make much progress or at least have this happen naturally.
I really appreciate support groups like these. It helps knowing there are others out there and that we are not alone in this. Being able to vent is always helpful too! Best of luck to everyone!
And I feel you 100%. And don't feel crazy about listing who is trying in your head, I have done that too and sure enough the announcement follows. The other week I deleted my Facebook app off my phone for the fear of seeing more announcements.
I hate the "it will happen when you're not expecting" or "don't think about it and it will happen." This is an oxymoron if I ever heard one. I find it IMPOSSIBLE to not try or think about it every month because I think maybe this month is the month it will happen. And I feel to not try (when you know you should) is lost time because the month long waiting game begins again.
Even though it is easier said than done, keep your heads up!!
@dgn83 welcome! I have only been on here a couple weeks and it's been such a nice support i didn't know was possible. I'm so sorry you and your wife are going through this. I will keep you in my thoughts that you have a successful IVF. Completely understand the Facebook and even TV/movies...it's impossible to go even a day to feel some sense of peace where it's not shoved in your face. It does make it so difficult to want to put any effort towards being happy for others. I get it. Wishing you guys so much luck.