Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
I just recently found out I have fertility issues.I am 35 yrs old and have never wanted kids until now. After trying for a year I went and got tested and after the not so good news. I now have to have surgery to remove a septum from my uterus and I have low eggs for my age. I am still going through test and procedures to help find out exactly what I am faced with. I am really sad and feeling broken. I am so anxious because I don't have all the answers yet or a plan of action. I have feeling that IVF is the route we are heading on. It is also about to get really expensive. I am having a hard time not being really angry. I am mad that I am going to have to pay for what most people get to do for free. I am angry that it is not going to be an easy process. Everyone I know can pop out kids with no problem. I am feeling lost and alone. I am here looking for women that understand and can help me deal with the stress and sadness.
It's all really hard. Lots of crying. Days where you feel a little more normal and more like yourself. Lots of bad news. But sometimes good news, too. We have found out that we can conceive only through IVF because of my blocked tubes. It's not an easy pill to swallow, if you will, but at least we have a plan. I'm a little older than you (just turned 37) and shared your same attitude (didn't want kids until I turned 34-35). Now, I'm angered that I didn't have all this information sooner, and that my parents didn't seek out a true diagnosis when I was sick as a kid, and now it feels like I'm in a race against time. So, please know you're not alone. You'll find lots of support and women who can empathize here. We hear you. In some small way, we ARE you.
I sincerely hope your surgery is a huge success and you get good news thereafter! :)
I will say the surgery is not so bad and at least you won't have to find out about the septum by having a miscarriage, better now than later. The removal of my septum allowed us to get pregnant naturally due to where it was located, but it wasn't until 2.5 years of trying that I finally insisted on having the surgery to see if there was something there. I should have insisted from the beginning but I didn't and instead spent a lot of money on 3 failed IUI cycles.
I also have a friend who, at 38, found out she was in premature ovarian failure. HOWEVER, she is responding really really well to the meds (surprisingly well) and they are able to do IUIs and she was actually able to get pregnant last month. It didn't stick, but it was a real boost to her morale to know that she and her husband could at least fertilize an egg (her husband also has sperm issues) and have it implant for a bit.
I will never say that anger and bitterness and sadness don't come with it, but you shouldn't give up hope! There are a lot of things you can do before having to move to IVF and hopefully you will be pleasantly surprised. It's no good being mad at yourself for not wanting kids until later in life. Our culture doesn't exactly promote children, and you will probably make a better parent at this age when you can really appreciate just how much you want this child.
Good luck!
On my HSG they thought they found a septum. (Upon more intrusive and expensive testing, it was discovered to actually be a tiny fibroid that shouldn't be a problem. Go figure on how the radiologist screwed that up.) I learned a LOT about septums while I was waiting for my RE appointment. I recommend the Mullerian Anomalies group on Yahoo. Just Google "support groups for uterine septum" and it should come up.
I won't lie, occasionally I would just break down completely and need to take time for a pity party, or just to be angry and sad. But the research was my only way of feeling in control.
I really hope your surgery goes well and we were able to get pregnant 3 months after my surgery. They say the first 6 months after a LAP and hysteroscopy are the best months to try to get pregnant and if you don't then that's probably not your real issue. Crossing my fingers for you!