Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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KnivesAndPens
KnivesAndPens
When is the right time in a relationship to tell them you might be infertile?
jamiev0721
jamiev0721
Your very young to have this information already, id suggest speaking with a doctor first. Infertility is hard to know and really only know after trying for some time and having a lot of tests done. So my advice seek medical attention before placing the label on yourself as being infertile especially at 18 years old.
Storyscribe
Storyscribe
There really is no right answer, but the sooner the better. I'm not saying on your first date or anything like that. If it not something that is brought up in some way I would say a few weeks or months perhaps. I'm here for you if you want to talk. I know this is not a subject that comes up too often on here.
KnivesAndPens
KnivesAndPens
You have no idea what tests I have done or why I am infertile. I could be without a uterus for all you know. I do date, and it is still imprtant, even at my age, that my significant other know. He talks all the time about how much he wants kids... How am I supposed to react? I couldnbe wasting my time dating someone who that is a deal breaker for.
You're right, I am young, which only makes all of this harder. Imagine being told at 17 you will never have kids..... Thank you for the support.
Turtlepower
Turtlepower
hi, I don't know why you are infertile and I don't want to make assumptions about your history.

I have a friend who was also told at a very young age (18, I think) that she would never have children. She was diagnosed with endometriosis and had to have one of her ovaries removed. But, she did go on to have two children in spite of what the doctors told her. So there are some conditions where you are definitely infertile, like if your uterus is gone, and some conditions where you may be told that you will never have children, but it's not a definite fact.

My friend was really angry at the doctor for saying this, but then she went on to have her first child at the age of 20. So you may be lucky that you have the news now if you are able to do something about it. If you know for sure you want kids, being young could be a good thing. As for your question, if the subject of kids has already come up in your relationship, I'd say it's definitely the time to talk about it. Good luck :)