Infertility Support Group

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I'm screaming inside.

grace12345
grace12345

Hey guys.  I'm sure like all of you I'm dealing with my own hand of infertility.  My husband and I have been trying for 6 years to have a baby, and recently got pregnant.  We went to the doctor twice (though she would never MEET us she just sent nurses to deal with me) At 7 weeks I felt as if something was wrong, but my tech took an ultrasound and said it was fine.  At 11 weeks, so between appointments I had a grueling miscarriage.  The hospital wouldn't perform a DandC and I spent July 1-4 giving birth at home between tears and tylenol.  They say it was 'probably a chromosone issue' but I'm not so certain.  We went back only to be told that I was, in fact, a lost cause.  My doctor was not kind about it and I feel like the room is just shrinking and I have no control.  I'm battling with my faith; I truly at this point do not believe there is a God out there anymore.  What do you guys do to cope?  Please don't say pray I will pull my hair out.

ttcnumber2
ttcnumber2
It sounds like you've been through hell. I can only imagine six years of infertility and the constant emotional ups and downs. Then the joy of pregnancy only to go through one of the hardest and most painful experiences. My heart goes out to you. In terms of actions to help stay positive I would say find a different doctor asap. No one should be treated like that. Differed to nurses and ignored. How awful. Was this your obgyn? Or a fertility specialist? I think one of the hardest things to accept is that some things are beyond control. If you are having sex during fertile times, staying healthy, and have been seen by a specialist with no issues found you are doing all you can. That's how I stay positive. Just assuring myself I'm doing everything within my realm of control. And trying to concentrate on other things as well like hobbies, friends, etc. Stay strong!
Halterbroke
Halterbroke
Infertility made me an atheist. God and I are just coming to terms now and my healthy son is nearly 2 years old. Be kind to yourself, after my miscarriage I did nothing I did not want to do and cried a lot and talked to friends. After coming out about it, I was shocked that so many of my friends (and even my sisters, both of them, which I never knew before!) had been through it too. Be kind to yourself.
GraspingAtStraws
GraspingAtStraws
Oh no. Such a bad experience. Once you are ready to move forward and keep trying, find a new doctor. You don't want to be surrounded by the memories or by people who didnt give you TLC. There are always options and different ways of getting to parenthood (donor eggs, for example), but it's probably too hard to think about right now so don't. Just let yourself be angry and upset until you have enough energy to move forward. And keep moving forward!
Shavona7l7p
Shavona7l7p
I would find a new doctor and start fresh.
grace12345
grace12345
Thank you everyone!