god i feel you! i tend to avoid the situation and pretend its not happening, its christmas i cant deal with, christmas without a family of your own,and there is no avoiding this one, ive dreaded every xmas for 13 years,but one day soon these 2 occasions will be the happist days of the year for us,

It's pretty much another one of those useless holidays, like Valentines Day. I can't remember what movie it's in that says it's a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like shit. lol. Really though, I am just going to focus on being grateful for my own mom.

I don't like this day either. My mother died about 2 1/2 years ago. Don't have a mother, can't be a mother. Don't like the day.

Me too... and its hurts more each day when I see ads about mothers days, reserve mothers day lunch, roses and all the shit.
IT JUST DEPRESSES ME!
:(

I totally hear you, this is going to be the first Mother's Day that it will really hit me too--hang in there.
Mertle
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I totally understand!! It is so hard to deal with and so hard to be happy for everyone else when you are just melting into nothing inside! It is indescribable to others even unless they have been through it too.

As if holidays weren't enough, my extended family has get togethers about once a month at least and the topic of conversation usually revolves around who is pregnant or engaged. I am one of 31 grandchildren, my family is very close and we are all at reproducing age.

I pretty much just don't go to any events anymore, because I can not handle it.

My advice to you is to spend the day with just your husband and do things that you enjoy that make you happy. It is better to focus on the positive than to put yourself in a situation where you will go home miserable. It is always easier said than done, but you need to keep a hospitable uterus for those hopeful babies!

I will be thinking of you on Mother's Day! Jess

Mother's Day is one of my least favorite days of the year. I don't have my mother (have step-mom), I'm not a mother, and I find it difficult to be around others, especially in church. Honestly, I'd rather lie in bed all day.

I agree, like Valentine's Day, it is a Hallmark holiday. We should not need a designated day of the year to love or appreciate the special people in our lives.

I will be thinking of all of you.

i know how you feel I havent celebrated mothers day in 20 yrs and to add to it im not a mom yet witch makes it suck more hang in there im sure our times will come soon

It is not my favorite holiday either. My DH and I bought mothers day cards for our moms today and there was a great card that said "A wonderful mom and grandma." Well, I can't buy that one! *Sigh* My DH for the last several years has bought me a present on Mother's Day and he calls it a "Soon-to-be Mother's Day present". That has always made me smile because I know that someday, it will be my time.

I know what you mean, I went & bought all the Mday cards & all I could think about is which one I would like if I were I mom.

This year is the first year that mother's day has become something sad to "me" because I don't have a child. My mother also has passed away 5 years ago but one thing I do is the Susan G. Komen Breast cancer walk...it is always on Mother's Day around me. Though I am doing it mostly to remember my mother it also gives me something to focus on rather than myself for the day.

I hate it too. I work in retail and we have all kinds of signs up for the day. It doesn't help that all of my sisters have kids.

Can I join in? I hate it now too! This was to be my first mother's day as a mom, but instead my son died last year when he was born premature and of course I'm not pregnant again. I hate mother's day and my life!!

I just make Mother's Day about my Mom and Grandma...which it has always been. I don't try to think about me not being a Mom...

I can't go to church on Mothers day b/c they hand out flowers to all the mothers and mothers to be. It is a nightmare for me. I always feel trapped and that I just want to flee. I am not doing that this year. God will understand.:)